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Now HFT - I do disagree that there are no pushy/crazy etc parents here. Any of the coaches here could write you a list of exactly who they thought was falling over the edge from supportive, encouraging to crazy gym parent or even gym parent from h.ell.
The funny thing is lots of new ones show up here like that, then they either hate what this place is and never come back, or they stick around and send pm's to new members to tell the new over the top parent that the locals aren't too "supportive" of the pushy types, or they chill and get with the CB groove.
The CB mods have worked hard for years to create an atmosphere that is balanced, whilst erring on the side of child friendly parenting. Most message boards have a style. People stick around. I do not think anyone protests to much here, I just think it is years of experience in the sport speaking out loud. When you have one very small kid in the sport there is just no way that what you know can be as full an experience as some of the folk who have had kids go all the way through, and even past, high school in gym.
In your OP you clearly said that you think that we here are just paying lip service to our parenting styles. For me this ain't true, it's her sport. I make her follow through with commitments and I let her know that she needs to work to the best of her ability in the gym, but I have no expectations when it comes to new skills or meet placements.
I totally believe the article you posted is talking about normal supportive parents, who want their children to do well in life as they understand how to follow through on commitments and how to dedicate themselves. YOu r comments that went with the link were not as clear.
To end it all, you say that you are pretty upset, well when you come along and imply that you think we are full of "it" as a group, you might find a whole lot of people are pretty upset with you. That is the nature of the message board beast, isn't it.
The funny thing is lots of new ones show up here like that, then they either hate what this place is and never come back, or they stick around and send pm's to new members to tell the new over the top parent that the locals aren't too "supportive" of the pushy types, or they chill and get with the CB groove.
The CB mods have worked hard for years to create an atmosphere that is balanced, whilst erring on the side of child friendly parenting. Most message boards have a style. People stick around. I do not think anyone protests to much here, I just think it is years of experience in the sport speaking out loud. When you have one very small kid in the sport there is just no way that what you know can be as full an experience as some of the folk who have had kids go all the way through, and even past, high school in gym.
In your OP you clearly said that you think that we here are just paying lip service to our parenting styles. For me this ain't true, it's her sport. I make her follow through with commitments and I let her know that she needs to work to the best of her ability in the gym, but I have no expectations when it comes to new skills or meet placements.
I totally believe the article you posted is talking about normal supportive parents, who want their children to do well in life as they understand how to follow through on commitments and how to dedicate themselves. YOu r comments that went with the link were not as clear.
To end it all, you say that you are pretty upset, well when you come along and imply that you think we are full of "it" as a group, you might find a whole lot of people are pretty upset with you. That is the nature of the message board beast, isn't it.
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