cogymmom2dd
Proud Parent
- Feb 9, 2020
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Is this a thing?
I have 3 DD’s who are preteam-L7. We have been at our gym on team for 6 years, total of 8 years if you count time spent in rec classes.
So, for the last 6 years, we have spent many evenings at the gym, eating dinner in the car, late nights finishing homework after practice because we have about 45 min from the time the bus drops off to the time that practice starts, dedicating weekends off for meets, a huge financial commitment/burden, etc.
This is no longer fun from a parent perspective and I personally am totally burned out.
Since we are online schooled this semester, DD1 does day program at the gym. So, we drop her off in the morning and pick her up in the afternoon. DD2 continues to do evening practices, so there are days when we are there twice daily, 4 trips there and back. I got a new car 4 years ago and have over 100k miles on it mainly from being the gym taxi. DH and I both work full time. I have the ability to schedule my days around all of the chaos, but it’s exhausting because a day off is not actually a day off. I find myself working a lot of weekends during the summer so that I can be home during the week doing gym mom things.
My kids love the sport. However, DD1 is struggling on L7 and I just don’t see the benefit of all of the sacrifices DH and I make. She’s dealt with gym shutdowns and Illness (she was sick and then the rest of the house had COVID), a huge growth spurt that compromised her flexibility and regressed a ton in her skills, developed a mental block doing any backwards tumbling, and has started therapy to overcome her fears (more money out of pocket). I have also found that the playing field is not equal, as most of her teammates are having privates on a regular basis and getting more 1:1 instruction and attention. They are scoring much higher than her and she gets upset when I tell her no to regularly scheduled privates (I’m not totally against them on occasion). I already pay the extra $$$ for her to do day program.
As I said earlier, she still loves the sport, as do my other 2 so even if she quits, I still have to be a gym mom. I can’t be the only one who has felt like this, any advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated.
I have 3 DD’s who are preteam-L7. We have been at our gym on team for 6 years, total of 8 years if you count time spent in rec classes.
So, for the last 6 years, we have spent many evenings at the gym, eating dinner in the car, late nights finishing homework after practice because we have about 45 min from the time the bus drops off to the time that practice starts, dedicating weekends off for meets, a huge financial commitment/burden, etc.
This is no longer fun from a parent perspective and I personally am totally burned out.
Since we are online schooled this semester, DD1 does day program at the gym. So, we drop her off in the morning and pick her up in the afternoon. DD2 continues to do evening practices, so there are days when we are there twice daily, 4 trips there and back. I got a new car 4 years ago and have over 100k miles on it mainly from being the gym taxi. DH and I both work full time. I have the ability to schedule my days around all of the chaos, but it’s exhausting because a day off is not actually a day off. I find myself working a lot of weekends during the summer so that I can be home during the week doing gym mom things.
My kids love the sport. However, DD1 is struggling on L7 and I just don’t see the benefit of all of the sacrifices DH and I make. She’s dealt with gym shutdowns and Illness (she was sick and then the rest of the house had COVID), a huge growth spurt that compromised her flexibility and regressed a ton in her skills, developed a mental block doing any backwards tumbling, and has started therapy to overcome her fears (more money out of pocket). I have also found that the playing field is not equal, as most of her teammates are having privates on a regular basis and getting more 1:1 instruction and attention. They are scoring much higher than her and she gets upset when I tell her no to regularly scheduled privates (I’m not totally against them on occasion). I already pay the extra $$$ for her to do day program.
As I said earlier, she still loves the sport, as do my other 2 so even if she quits, I still have to be a gym mom. I can’t be the only one who has felt like this, any advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated.