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    For Parents Recently Retired Gymnast Essay "Who Am I?"

    Thanks. I think the trick was Christmas break. When she came home, she was someone else. She truly was no longer a gymnast. She had moved on. I had notions in my head that she would have taken the time off and done regular life in her first semester. I thought she'd have gotten it out of her...
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    For Parents Recently Retired Gymnast Essay "Who Am I?"

    You may rem me as the mom in mourning. A lot of you seemed to read my thread about my daughter retiring but I couldn't. My daughter, despite my best efforts to control and mold her into exactly what I envisioned, wrote this beautiful essay called "Who Am I?" I was moved to tears when I read it...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    Big symbolic step today. I changed my Instagram profile to say "future doctor" instead of "former gymnast." I know it seems insignificant, but it's huge to me. A big turn towards the future vs the past. And, it's really the first time I've felt that way. The counselor said that I can only have...
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    For Parents Child in DDs age group passed her out skill & performance wise, coach playing favorites

    I might be repeating another poster because I haven't been able to read the whole thread, but I will tell you that I understand you. Truly. I was you. I am still you. My daughter retired after high school graduation as a L10ish. She'd taken her whole life. I'm still with you. I'm in...
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    For Parents Thank you, deleting post, but not for a bad reason

    Thank you so much! Very encouraging.
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    Omg. In no way am I body shaming her. {not directing this to you specifically}. Goodness, people are so ready to jump on that topic. I don't tell her what to wear. So, when we're in the dressing room looking for outfits to wear for sorority rush, or anything for that matter, and she tries on...
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    For Parents Thank you, deleting post, but not for a bad reason

    Just wanted to tell you I'm deleting my post about my daughter retiring. It's nothing against anyone and I have appreciated the advice. I just don't want to take the chance of anyone recognizing me. The gymnastics world is small, after all.
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    I've been a member for a while though I haven't signed on in forever. Recall, I said I realized I'd posted about this a year ago. When I joined she was still a L10. I would not have pick that name today. It was already my member name.
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    I have gotten some really interesting things here. First, I realize that I'm not alone. Some of you could have been in my brain when you wrote. That is so helpful. It makes me know that while I need to find a way out, I'm not all alone. I had not given enough thought to the way college...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    Please don't take any offense on either side on the comments from GAGymmom. I completely understood what she said. She was not saying anyone on here this specific time was judging necessarily. She was speaking from experience of how it feels in general. I totally appreciated it. The weight...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    You are 100% right on both fronts. It was not all gymnastics. And I don't want to not be able to enjoy talking about her childhood because, if something is mentioned that comes anywhere close to something gymnastics related, she clams up. You can't just wash away your whole life and never...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    Thank you so much for sharing with me! You mentioned things I hadn't even thought about but were equally as true. I, too, struggle with resentment. I know it's not right. I want to simply be happy for her friends successes. But it's so hard to watch folks who, while truly talented and...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    I do think y'all are right about me going alone. I wouldn't want her to know my inner most thoughts on this. My anger. That's for me to work out and she doesn't ever need to hear it. It couldn't ever be unheard. Eventually, we need to go together though. Get to a point where we can be at...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    Thank you for responding to the comment. I was about to just delete my comment. This is the 2nd comment of this type I have received. It took a lot to be that open about what a horrible person I am. I am just reaching out for support and help from my community.
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    There are some differences, but my goodness, it's like you got into my brain and my heart. You know what I'm going through. She's halfway through her freshman year of college and I still think that she could still train and get it back and transfer schools! I guess once sophomore year starts...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    Funny, I just did a search and realized that I posted about this in july of 2018! Sad. I'm still not over it. She ended up destroying her ankle at a fall camp that was a tradition for the optionals. Tore everything you could tear. It's technically how she "retired." But, if she's had the...
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    For Parents Daughter retired. Mom can't.

    I will admit up front that I realize that I am "that mom" that you never thought you would be. I feel horrible about it. Please, I'd like supportive advice, not bashing. My daughter graduated high school last year as a L10. She was known as the comeback kid. She suffered through more than...
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    For Parents Can dd go back to gymnastics or is it too late.

    I don't think you understand my question. Clearly, I'd love for her to. I am not trying to deny that. And I totally understand it's up to her, whether it's what I wish or not. So, of course the decision would be hers. My question is physically, can a former 9/10 be completely out 2 years and...
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    For Parents Can dd go back to gymnastics or is it too late.

    I have a ridiculous mom question. I know 100% it won't happen. But, still want to ask. Feeney at Brockport still contacts my daughter rather frequently. I'm very surprised, since she told him she was retired. I thought he'd just fade away. Now, this won't happen, but I am wondering... My...
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    For Parents L10 Senior losing interest in college

    Oh, and because it's so long away from the gym, I've scheduled for her to get some practice in at club gyms along the way