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    Parents Should I report this?

    My daughter is younger, but she is suffering tremendously emotionally and psychologically from this type of stuff. More and more that we didn't know about is coming out as time passes... And therapy because of this. There were things that she believed were okay because it had become so...
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    WAG Doc Ali used for old abuse thoughts?

    Dunno.... Yes, I agree about previous coach. I will be sending you a pm here in a bit. I did get a response from Doc Ali, and she said if we were willing to modify the material to fit the situation to use the techniques she thinks it could be helpful. Gracyomalley- she made a lot of...
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    WAG Doc Ali used for old abuse thoughts?

    He knows where we came from and gave us the recommendation of the new gym with absolutely wonderful coaches. We just need her to realize again that this is different from the past, these coaches truly are good and won't turn mean and they truly believe in her.
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    WAG Doc Ali used for old abuse thoughts?

    Thanks everyone. I do not believe that the Doc Ali program is the answer to all of this and the magic answer to fix it. I was thinking that the idea behind of it of replacing your bad thoughts with good ones could become a good coping mechanism, not only now but in future times - any time...
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    WAG Doc Ali used for old abuse thoughts?

    The group being told they were all awful and they must be such a disappointment to their parents that coach bets we wished they were never born is ONE example. That is not tough, it is verbally abusive. Not right for a 6 y/o or an 18 y/o. That was one of the last things I HEARD said and...
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    WAG Doc Ali used for old abuse thoughts?

    I don't want to give to much info on it/her. She will repeat 2 for a few various reasons though she would be capable of 3. She is relapsing bc she is taking the decisions made for her long term future in mind and taking them as negatives and convinced herself that the awful things the old...
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    WAG Doc Ali used for old abuse thoughts?

    Anyone with Doc Ali experience : would I be able to modify the materials to help with old abusive coach that is stuck in her head? Instead of the fear beast it is the beast of a coach. She is only 6, so I would assume we'd have help bring the info to her level (super smart and thinks and...
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    Parents The saga continues - advice please

    You said something that struck me more than the crazy too old thing. Your daughter said her gym doesn't want her. That will do a lot to her confidence and how she feels her worth is as a gymnast. My daughter is the same age. Our old gym crushed her (differently than your daughter- but...
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    Parents Does anyone else feel the financial pressure?

    I joke with my husband that with tuition and the fuel bc we have a drive, it's almost like we pay an extra house pmt each month. And we do this AND horses..... *sigh* Definitely feel the pressure with one income.
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    Parents Negotiating ER bills?

    Also keep for good notes of who you talk to and what it was about.
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    Parents Negotiating ER bills?

    Isthe remaining balance your deductible / co ins? I've done ins billing and where we are, if we further discount (which we should not) what the ins co says is your responsibility we are responsible to contact them and let them know. Then it would get adjusted with them that that amount is...
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    Parents slightly OT.. very strong-willed 4 year old- might take some time off from gym

    With all the home /sitter changes, she may feel very insecure. She likely feels that she has no control and acting this ways makes her feel in control of something. She doesn't have say in a lot of big decisions that affect the family as a whole. Sounds like she is trying to get some say...
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    Parents Let The River Flow

    There was just a thread on this book "for everyone", ck to see posts I commented on. We just got it and it has a wonderful message! My dd wants it read multiple times a day and 'let the river flow' is what she focused on this past wkend. She is 6. I think, reading wise it would be for...
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    WAG For everyone....

    Thank you for this recommendation! I ordered the book and we just got it today. My dd loves it. With everything she's been through, more than just winning or losing, this came at a great time!
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    WAG Bell?

    There's been a bell at all the meets we've gone to. My daughter runs out of time and asks why noone warned her, so she is focused and doesn't hear it. I'd rather her get the .1 deduction than rush and not have a nice routine with a lot more deductions or worse a fall.
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    WAG Not creating further damage

    Thank you everyone! I've heard back from one gym and they are more than happy to have us come in and watch practice and she can come in for an evaluation. I've let them know that I first want to watch a practice or two just to get a feel for coaching styles and that I think that they may fit...
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    WAG Not creating further damage

    Our pedi's just happened to be at a perfect time in life! We spent the afternoon and it was just about us and her feeling special. No sibling, no pressure, just fun. We were able to talk and laugh. Thank you, a very good reminder that, even without gym time, we are rebuilding her confidence...
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    WAG Not creating further damage

    Thank you everyone! Now let's see if I can work with quotes...LOL I have no issue with her not competing. That would be fine. I'm worried about what her confidence will be like if she does move to a "preteam". I would see it as a lateral move or possibly a move up if we end up at a gym...
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    WAG Not creating further damage

    Thanks. Oh the decisions as parents. The things to keep them safe, but make them sad at the same time. Dunno, that is hilarious. I didn't think about getting a boyfriend this time, but my husband has said multiple times maybe she'd be better if she got one again. Lol The issues...
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    WAG Not creating further damage

    Well, was posting this while she's in practice and then..... For the first time in maybe 2 months this coach actually helped, motivated and complimented my daughter. She came off the floor excited saying "did you see it? X helped me and said I did a good job. ' means different things to me...

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