For Parents Crazy Gym Parent Behavior (Yours or Others)

drwho42

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I think we should all do the right thing as parents to support our child / children in any sport. I do want to weigh in on one aspect - courtesy and respect for parents of other gymnasts. We should all take a pause and think of creating a nurturing and supportive for our children in the gym and outside of it. As the first people our children look to a role models we as parents should do our best to exhibit those behaviors.

Many parents are nice, however, sometimes there are situations where they form into their own little groups and alienate other parents in the process. New parents entering a gym or "team group" may feel put-off by it and we all know this sport requires a lot of time together and in some cases trips.

Personally, I want to project being a welcoming person and will cheer on other children on the team equally because they are a team. I am also willing to have conversations with other parents to bounce ideas or even keep an eye on a child if the child is waiting for a parent to arrive who is running late.

While our children may be "competing" with each other there should be some degree of support and comradery among the parents. I suggest we all take a look while in the waiting room and see if there is a parent off to the side or new to the group. Reach out and say 'hello', offer to have a conversation (gym or other things to lighten the mood), or grab a cup of coffee together.
 

CuriousCate

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I think we should all do the right thing as parents to support our child / children in any sport. I do want to weigh in on one aspect - courtesy and respect for parents of other gymnasts. We should all take a pause and think of creating a nurturing and supportive for our children in the gym and outside of it. As the first people our children look to a role models we as parents should do our best to exhibit those behaviors.

Many parents are nice, however, sometimes there are situations where they form into their own little groups and alienate other parents in the process. New parents entering a gym or "team group" may feel put-off by it and we all know this sport requires a lot of time together and in some cases trips.

Personally, I want to project being a welcoming person and will cheer on other children on the team equally because they are a team. I am also willing to have conversations with other parents to bounce ideas or even keep an eye on a child if the child is waiting for a parent to arrive who is running late.

While our children may be "competing" with each other there should be some degree of support and comradery among the parents. I suggest we all take a look while in the waiting room and see if there is a parent off to the side or new to the group. Reach out and say 'hello', offer to have a conversation (gym or other things to lighten the mood), or grab a cup of coffee together.
It's funny but this has actually always been my gym parent experience. My ODD just retired as a level 8 after years at this gym and I will always be close to many of her former teammates' parents. There were definitely the competitive parents who never wanted another kid to beat their own, but most kept it quiet and those who were loud about it, were sort of left to their own devices. We are at a very competitive gym with strict coaching and higher hours, and a culture that has run the gamut from kind to abusive, to somewhere in the middle now, so I can't say that the parent relationships reflect the culture of the gym really. I read a lot of these posts, I'm thinking that maybe I just got lucky!
 

drwho42

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It's funny but this has actually always been my gym parent experience. My ODD just retired as a level 8 after years at this gym and I will always be close to many of her former teammates' parents. There were definitely the competitive parents who never wanted another kid to beat their own, but most kept it quiet and those who were loud about it, were sort of left to their own devices. We are at a very competitive gym with strict coaching and higher hours, and a culture that has run the gamut from kind to abusive, to somewhere in the middle now, so I can't say that the parent relationships reflect the culture of the gym really. I read a lot of these posts, I'm thinking that maybe I just got lucky!
A lot of it is luck and while I would not make a slight again the gym itself you raised a good point about culture.

Some of this positivity can be communicated from gym management and encouraged. The end result can be great to all involved.

I wouldn’t everyone to be BFFs but it can lead to positive outcomes.
 

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