That is what has happened to mine. She won’t do her series on high beam. She was balking on vault and her flyaway but I think she has worked through those. She is working her way up with mats on beam. She still loves going, so maybe it just takes time.I feel like age 10 is the age where mental blocks and fears start happening, especially if they have progressed to L7+ because the required skills become more dangerous and are definitely scary for me to watch, imagine being the one actually doing it. I have had 2 family members where their daughters quit right around that age because of their fears. One even took her kid to a therapist that specializes in sports and mental blocks and it was no help. After COVID, it took DD1 (Age 10, L7) awhile to be comfortable doing giants, BHS entry vaults, and backwards tumbling on the beam. She is finally doing all of the above consistently without wanting a coach right beside her in case she needs a spotter, but it took 2 months to get comfortable again.
Thank you! What baffles me is that her coaches think she is purposefully not doing the skills, sigh. And they are experienced coaches...so I am so confused! She is currently working with a sports psychologist. Hopefully that helps!I'm sorry to hear that the coaches aren't being patient with her fears. That's frustrating as each girl may need a different approach to help get through that.
Our gym has been very understanding, but you are absolutely correct in that most gym's have the skills their kids have to do in order to go to the next Level. We have stayed at our gym through the ups and downs because of this. It was very hard as a mom watching my kid suffer through her fears but you have to step away and let them figure it out. I will admit my daughter has limited options for skills especially on beam because of her fears. My daughter in all honestly never really got over her back tumbling issues. So she has to be very creative. She continues to work on back tumbling but rarely really competes skills that go backwards, yes she gets deductions. Every year I wonder how she is going to figure out the requirements. We will see what happens this year at least the pressure will be off for a while since no one is sure whether they are competing or not.Sadly not all gyms are willing to substitute skills. Glad they did that for your daughter.
Thank you so much for this reply!! I love your perspective on how they might not be able to do a skill, but walking through this, they will have a huge life lesson. Thank you!!Kids teach an age when they are able to start thinking in the abstract and that’s when fear can become an issues.
When they are little they live in the moment and may have fears but usually in regards to their current situation. As kids thinking matures they are able to consider possible consequences to their actions, and danger scenarios.
This is an important life skill, we as adults tell kids not to do things because they are dangerous because we are able to consider a variety of possible consequences. Without this skill we wouldn’t get too far.
When kids first develop this skill, it’s hard for them to manage and control.
But I always tell the kids, fear is a good thing. We have it to keep ourselves safe. Learning to work with and through fear is part of the next stage of their gymnastics journey.
In the long run this is probably the greatest gift gymnastics will ever give them. When they are 30 they will probably never do another Yurchenko vault. But the skill they have learned to be able to break down fear, will be something they can use every day to have a successful life.