Hoping to get some parent perspective or advice. My two daughters have been doing gym for quite a while now. Both are well into optionals now, and you would think I would be calm at meets after all this time. I am the type of person who has always been pretty anxious at gym meets or just any kind of evaluation situation where a child is "in the spotlight" by themselves. We had several years of a very bad coaching/gym situation that really heightened my anxiety. For example, after one meet that was not spectacular but was hardly a failure, our family had planned to spend the rest of the weekend doing a mini vacation. My daughter had a minor issue on beam and the coach pretty much went crazy and tried to demand that we cancel our vacation and get my daughter back in the gym. I remember crying and feeling incredibly anxious about this for most of the weekend. There were quite a few similar instances during this time. So as silly as this may sound, I think I might be a little traumatized. The girls are now in a much healthier environment. I am still struggling big time with the meets. After two sessions (sometimes they are back to back now that my younger one is in optionals), I just feel completely drained and like I have been through a marathon. The issue is that after all of this time my husband says it pains him to see me so anxious all weekend over gym meets. So now he prefers to take them by himself. He is a calm and easy going person and the girls do great around him. Or, he said I should take them by myself. I know it won't kill me to go by myself, but like I said, I am kind of a wreck by the end of the weekend. Even if they do great, I still feel incredibly drained. It has kind of turned into a weird phobia. I know logically this is completely ridiculous, but I have actual panic-like symptoms. I tried to explain to him that it is sort of like a person with a phobia of flying. I can't reason myself out of it. We have an out of state meet this weekend, and I am just not sure what to do. I thought we would all go together but he said he would prefer to either take them himself or have me take them by myself. Has anyone experienced this? Should we ask the girls what their preference is?