I have been a long time lurker but now really need help.
I have a soon to be 16 year old DD who is a L9 gymnast. She is getting set to compete her 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] year of L9.
My issue is the way her coach handles her training, skills and competition. At this point Assume we have no other options for gymnastics. DD does not want to quit. We have 1 other gym in our area but it is not an option.
DD Has had an overwhelming mental block on her BHS BHS on High beam. When I say overwhelming I mean she has been working it for 4 years. She has never been able to do it on the high beam. She can do them on low beam. She has been taking part in Doc Ali’s Web Camp and also done one to one sessions with Doc Ali. For the sake of this conversation lets assume this skills is not going to happen.
Here is the issue. HC says.. no BHS BHS No competing beam. No competing beam means she is restricted from some meets she has wanted to go to.
HC ‘refuses’ to allow her to work other flight series. DD can do FHS/BHS competed it 2 times last year. She didn’t receive connection bonus either meet. She fell in the 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] meet and HC told her she could never work the skill again. And she hasn’t since.
I don’t think its fair to punish a girl for a fear issue. HC thinks she just doesn’t want it “bad enough†and if he withholds meets from her she will get the skill.
This is where I come to you with Help. DH and I are planning on having a meeting with HC. To see why he will not let her do another flight series. How do I talk to this coach without him thinking that we are telling him to do his job? I just don’t understand. We have been in this gym for 11 years, We have been supportive parents, we do not tell this coach how to do his job. But DD is looking at competing in college. She knows D1 is probably out of her reach but she would like to do D3. She feels like she needs to get out there, qualify for state, possibly specialist at Regions to start getting noticed. She feels that HC has given up on her cuz she is not getting 1 skill.
How can I approach this without making him defensive and saying “My gym.. My rules?â€
Thanks in advance
I have a soon to be 16 year old DD who is a L9 gymnast. She is getting set to compete her 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] year of L9.
My issue is the way her coach handles her training, skills and competition. At this point Assume we have no other options for gymnastics. DD does not want to quit. We have 1 other gym in our area but it is not an option.
DD Has had an overwhelming mental block on her BHS BHS on High beam. When I say overwhelming I mean she has been working it for 4 years. She has never been able to do it on the high beam. She can do them on low beam. She has been taking part in Doc Ali’s Web Camp and also done one to one sessions with Doc Ali. For the sake of this conversation lets assume this skills is not going to happen.
Here is the issue. HC says.. no BHS BHS No competing beam. No competing beam means she is restricted from some meets she has wanted to go to.
HC ‘refuses’ to allow her to work other flight series. DD can do FHS/BHS competed it 2 times last year. She didn’t receive connection bonus either meet. She fell in the 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] meet and HC told her she could never work the skill again. And she hasn’t since.
I don’t think its fair to punish a girl for a fear issue. HC thinks she just doesn’t want it “bad enough†and if he withholds meets from her she will get the skill.
This is where I come to you with Help. DH and I are planning on having a meeting with HC. To see why he will not let her do another flight series. How do I talk to this coach without him thinking that we are telling him to do his job? I just don’t understand. We have been in this gym for 11 years, We have been supportive parents, we do not tell this coach how to do his job. But DD is looking at competing in college. She knows D1 is probably out of her reach but she would like to do D3. She feels like she needs to get out there, qualify for state, possibly specialist at Regions to start getting noticed. She feels that HC has given up on her cuz she is not getting 1 skill.
How can I approach this without making him defensive and saying “My gym.. My rules?â€
Thanks in advance