blueberrygym
Proud Parent
I've read some really good old threads on "mean girls". Wanted to post my experience so that I can rationalize what I'm seeing. My DD is 8 and just moved to a new gym. Gym is pretty competitive with strong results at all levels, with most girls gunning for elite path or college scholarships. The culture is very different from our old gym which was very family oriented and fun.
I moved her for better training at a young age in case she ever wants to do optionals. New gym has a path from xcel to optionals if a gymnast shows potential. Anyway, she is training xcel Gold and has been placed with an advanced group. Problem is she is with 11-14 year old girls. My DD is sad because she knows she will not make any new friends given the age gap.
Even worse, the girls haven't embraced her. On day 1, I introduced her to the group in the lobby and they barely said hi or acknowledged her. I've seen them jump ahead of her and take her turn while training. I also overheard a girl say something very mean to her after practice (but didn't say anything because I didn't want to cause drama). I get that she's the newbie and I will give it time. But these girls are night and day compared to the girls at her old gym who adopted her on day 1 as the little sister. It's just shocking to me and something I didn't expect at all. For those with kids at competitive gyms, is this normal? Will it get better?
I moved her for better training at a young age in case she ever wants to do optionals. New gym has a path from xcel to optionals if a gymnast shows potential. Anyway, she is training xcel Gold and has been placed with an advanced group. Problem is she is with 11-14 year old girls. My DD is sad because she knows she will not make any new friends given the age gap.
Even worse, the girls haven't embraced her. On day 1, I introduced her to the group in the lobby and they barely said hi or acknowledged her. I've seen them jump ahead of her and take her turn while training. I also overheard a girl say something very mean to her after practice (but didn't say anything because I didn't want to cause drama). I get that she's the newbie and I will give it time. But these girls are night and day compared to the girls at her old gym who adopted her on day 1 as the little sister. It's just shocking to me and something I didn't expect at all. For those with kids at competitive gyms, is this normal? Will it get better?