- Jul 23, 2016
Reading these stories makes me angry for all of your children--but tells me that we are not alone. My DD, who just decided at the end of her first year of L9 (age 13) to retire from gymnastics, has been dealing with a culture of favoritism at her gym since the beginning. I have overlooked so much over the years: certain girls always getting the better practice times with the better coaches (sometimes even getting more practice hours than other girls at the same level), coaches treating one group to ice cream treats but not the other group...many, many instances when my DD was dealt the short end of the stick. I even heard from another parent that the coaches referred to my DD's practice group as the "leftovers."
But the icing on the cake? DD qualified for Westerns this year--a huge accomplishment in your first year of level 9. On the gym's FB page, a post from the coaches about Westerns...mentions every girl except my DD.
My DD has never (in all of her 7 years of competing) won any sort of award at our banquet. Not even a fun, silly one. Not one.
There's part of me that is hurt, sad, angry...and there's another part of me that is just relieved that we are walking away.
I am sorry to hear that your dd's accomplishments were not acknowledged the way they should have been- and no, you are most definitely not alone! Was her decision to retire due in part to her coaches?
My dd has also been in a lower practice group that gets fewer hours than girls who are training for the same level in the past- and then they compete against each other. I have never understood that.
What I really wish for is another, better gym to open in town to give dd an opportunity to keep enjoying the sport before she decides to retire.