Well, now the confusion goes even deeper. I heard back from a couple other gyms, so now I have two more options to consider, in addition to the first two. One is another head coach/team program position. It is in a very small gym with a good size team up to level 7. I didn't mention this before, but a number of parents were planning on moving their girls to whichever gym I decided on. And I really would love to get to continue coaching the girls I know and love, but this one is too far away for them to attend (I would move). The other gym is a little closer than the farthest gym (mentioned in first post). It is only two years old, and is a huge state-of-the-art facility with nice equipment. They also have a good size team up to level 8, with good basics. But they have two good coaches already, and I wouldn't get a lot of say in what they do. But I might learn a lot from them.
Gym 1: Head coach position, far away, think I've decided against this one
Gym 2: Closest distance, lots of young, low level girls, but there is another head coach, and I wouldn't get a lot of hours
Gym 3: Head coach position, good, young team to work with, but far away for girls I already coach who are important to me
Gym 4: About an hour and 15 minute commute, big team with good basics, but already have two other good coaches.
Thanks for your opinions!