- May 4, 2022
My kid has ADHD, rejection sensitivity dysphoria, depression and at times has battled suicidal ideation. They have been struggling with peers at the gym and I don't know what to do. I pulled them out for a week under mental health issues (in truth it was depression due to teammates segregation of them when my child tried to talk to them). My family tends to be pretty sarcastic and teasing, plus my child doesn't have much of a filter at times and things don't come out the way that they are intended. My kid reached out to one of the teammates to ask why they were giving my kid the silent treatment, and was told that they knew things didn't come out the way it was intended and that my kid should figure it out by their self. Can anyone let me know how to correct a behavior when you don't know what that behavior was? After two weeks of total isolation from team members (not entirely they reached out by text to ask why my kid wasn't in the gym - not how they were doing - just why weren't you there), now the coach has gotten involved. The tone of the communication was very much that it was my child's fault and that team members should stay at home if they are mentally struggling, and they will be sent home if they aren't positive at the gym. I'm trying not to do a knee jerk reaction, but am feeling very triggered. To top it off my child is the oldest and is being bullied by the others around the lower teen mark so my kid has been assumed to be the antagonist not a victim. I'd love to pull out of the situation, but there is no other gym and generally the gym itself and coaches are usually great. AITA? I'm actually pretty hard on my kid with regard to being positive and nice. I would kick my kid's butt if they were the one pushing a teammates belongings to the floor because they were acting out petty revenge. The bottom line is that my kid doesn't feel safe at the gym because of teammates but doesn't want to quit the sport.