Canadian_gym_mom
Proud Parent
This has a question, a brag and some general gymnastics chat in it, so I decided to just put it here. Sorry, it's also kind of long.
So dd was off gym from the 21st of december and started back Monday the 2nd of January. I will say that all through the break, we couldn't get her to stay right side up for very long. Between handstand walking all around the house, to showing every guest we had over her back handsprings, to sitting in the splits to read, to using the end of the couch as a "bar" to do pike-ups, she wouldn't sit still.
Then Monday morning came, and she woke up crying and told me that she never wanted to do gymnastics again. And this girl was serious. She was asking what other sport she could try, that she wanted me to call the gym and tell them she was never coming back.
She would not explain it. She does not love conditioning or beam, and I was asking if it was that, she said no she just decided to quit. In my mind, she was just nervous about going back after such a long break, so I made her a deal. She had to go to gym that day. If, by the end of training she still wanted to quit, she had to ask her coach to meet with us and she had to tell her herself. That if she was making this big decision on her own, then she could also be the one to let the coach know.
I wasn't working that day, so I went to the gym about halfway through her session. Everything had been great. She came out and I asked her if we were coming back tomorrow and she just rolled her eyes and said, "of course mom!"
Well then they went to beam. Part of her personal program is that she has to do 10 back walkovers stuck before she moves on to back handsprings. Well she did 5 and then fell on 1 and that was IT. The tears started and she stood beside the beam with her arms crossed refusing to do anything. Finally the coach sent her to do 5 ropes and she went to do them, crying but she did them. When she went back to beam she again stood with her arms crossed, crying and refusing to continue.
The coach came out to talk to me and basically she said that she wanted to tell her that she can stand like that all she wants, but she iosn't leaving the gym until she does her beam and then does her conditioning. I agreed and also decided I should leave to take away my distraction. I left and when I came back close to the end of the session, she was sitting by the conditioning and refusing to do it. @@
She told the coaches she had to leave at a certain time, but they told her that she was staying until it was all completed. So FINALLY she starts the conditioning and gets it done. The head coach went and sat with her and had a long talk about acceptable behaviour and then made her apologize to her coach for being so rude.
I didn't know what to expect when she came out of the gym, so I just gave her a big hug and told her that while her rudeness was not a good thing, that I was proud of her for finally sticking with it and doing everything she needed to do. I asked if she still wanted to tell her coaches something and she said of course not.
The next day she was back to her perfectly normal self, seemed a bit tired but did all the work she needed to. And then by yesterday she took her giants to the pit bar and did 5 (with a spot)!! And her coach told me she went through her beam work with not one fall and did 10 back hand springs! And she started doing layout full twists on the tumble track.
And her tumbling coach has decided that she will compete a level up from where she first thought she would, so she's a C instead of a D, which means her routines will be round off, 4 back handsprings and back tuck, and round off, 3 back handsprings and a back layout.
And she is HAPPY!
If you made it through this far, you deserve a medal. I was hoping for some feedback on the first day situation. Would you have let her stay home when she was adament she wanted to quit right then? Would any of you handled it differently when she was upset at the gym? From both a parent perspective and a coach perspective?
When the coach came and told me that they wanted to keep her there until she finished what she was supposed to do, I agreed because I trust them to make the best decisions. Plus I know my dd and if she was allowed to just let it go and not do her beam and conditioning she would know she could get away with the rude behaviour.
Thanks for reading this novel!
So dd was off gym from the 21st of december and started back Monday the 2nd of January. I will say that all through the break, we couldn't get her to stay right side up for very long. Between handstand walking all around the house, to showing every guest we had over her back handsprings, to sitting in the splits to read, to using the end of the couch as a "bar" to do pike-ups, she wouldn't sit still.
Then Monday morning came, and she woke up crying and told me that she never wanted to do gymnastics again. And this girl was serious. She was asking what other sport she could try, that she wanted me to call the gym and tell them she was never coming back.
She would not explain it. She does not love conditioning or beam, and I was asking if it was that, she said no she just decided to quit. In my mind, she was just nervous about going back after such a long break, so I made her a deal. She had to go to gym that day. If, by the end of training she still wanted to quit, she had to ask her coach to meet with us and she had to tell her herself. That if she was making this big decision on her own, then she could also be the one to let the coach know.
I wasn't working that day, so I went to the gym about halfway through her session. Everything had been great. She came out and I asked her if we were coming back tomorrow and she just rolled her eyes and said, "of course mom!"
Well then they went to beam. Part of her personal program is that she has to do 10 back walkovers stuck before she moves on to back handsprings. Well she did 5 and then fell on 1 and that was IT. The tears started and she stood beside the beam with her arms crossed refusing to do anything. Finally the coach sent her to do 5 ropes and she went to do them, crying but she did them. When she went back to beam she again stood with her arms crossed, crying and refusing to continue.
The coach came out to talk to me and basically she said that she wanted to tell her that she can stand like that all she wants, but she iosn't leaving the gym until she does her beam and then does her conditioning. I agreed and also decided I should leave to take away my distraction. I left and when I came back close to the end of the session, she was sitting by the conditioning and refusing to do it. @@
She told the coaches she had to leave at a certain time, but they told her that she was staying until it was all completed. So FINALLY she starts the conditioning and gets it done. The head coach went and sat with her and had a long talk about acceptable behaviour and then made her apologize to her coach for being so rude.
I didn't know what to expect when she came out of the gym, so I just gave her a big hug and told her that while her rudeness was not a good thing, that I was proud of her for finally sticking with it and doing everything she needed to do. I asked if she still wanted to tell her coaches something and she said of course not.
The next day she was back to her perfectly normal self, seemed a bit tired but did all the work she needed to. And then by yesterday she took her giants to the pit bar and did 5 (with a spot)!! And her coach told me she went through her beam work with not one fall and did 10 back hand springs! And she started doing layout full twists on the tumble track.
And her tumbling coach has decided that she will compete a level up from where she first thought she would, so she's a C instead of a D, which means her routines will be round off, 4 back handsprings and back tuck, and round off, 3 back handsprings and a back layout.
And she is HAPPY!
If you made it through this far, you deserve a medal. I was hoping for some feedback on the first day situation. Would you have let her stay home when she was adament she wanted to quit right then? Would any of you handled it differently when she was upset at the gym? From both a parent perspective and a coach perspective?
When the coach came and told me that they wanted to keep her there until she finished what she was supposed to do, I agreed because I trust them to make the best decisions. Plus I know my dd and if she was allowed to just let it go and not do her beam and conditioning she would know she could get away with the rude behaviour.
Thanks for reading this novel!