Why are you pushing anything?
I was wondering the same. I would not push anything at home, and just let her be a kid, daughter, etc. My ds has therapy for his shoulder and we do not even make him do that at home. We encourage, we suggest. but we do not push. He usually does that at gym, and he knows that to get better, he needs to follow the directions of his PT. So the most we do is say..."hey, have you done your therapy today?" Other than that, we do not suggest anythign to him.