cbifoja
Proud Parent
This season is the first time that my daughter has started worrying about meets. In the past, she was just excited about swimming pools in the hotel and getting her hair "did". The metals were cool but nothing to really stress about.
This is her first year as an optional and I was a bit caught off-guard at how anxious she becomes before meets now. I'm talking about withdrawal, very quiet demeanor, and an upset stomach.
I am not sure what the right play is here or even if there is one for me. Is this something she needs to work through with her coach or is this a parenting issue? I was very concerned before her meet this weekend and told her that if she was this miserable, perhaps she might want to try a different sport or maybe see if she can just train somewhere without competing. I wasn't angry or using it as a threat, but rather offering her an out if optionals is just too much for her nerves.
That was the wrong thing to say because quiet and withdrawn turned into crying and hysterical. So after I about killed myself backpedaling, I just held her in my lap and reminded her that nothing would ever alter how I viewed her and how I feel about her. She did fine at the meet....good bar score, nailed her beam series. Floor kind of fell apart but I don't know if that was related to nerves or not.
So I guess I'm asking for some strategies that have worked for other parents in the past. I'm sure I will get at least one "leave it to the coach" but it feels artificial to me to just ignore something that is obviously bothering my kid. Thoughts?
This is her first year as an optional and I was a bit caught off-guard at how anxious she becomes before meets now. I'm talking about withdrawal, very quiet demeanor, and an upset stomach.
I am not sure what the right play is here or even if there is one for me. Is this something she needs to work through with her coach or is this a parenting issue? I was very concerned before her meet this weekend and told her that if she was this miserable, perhaps she might want to try a different sport or maybe see if she can just train somewhere without competing. I wasn't angry or using it as a threat, but rather offering her an out if optionals is just too much for her nerves.
That was the wrong thing to say because quiet and withdrawn turned into crying and hysterical. So after I about killed myself backpedaling, I just held her in my lap and reminded her that nothing would ever alter how I viewed her and how I feel about her. She did fine at the meet....good bar score, nailed her beam series. Floor kind of fell apart but I don't know if that was related to nerves or not.
So I guess I'm asking for some strategies that have worked for other parents in the past. I'm sure I will get at least one "leave it to the coach" but it feels artificial to me to just ignore something that is obviously bothering my kid. Thoughts?