- Mar 29, 2023
My daughter is a young level 3 and since she made team she doesn't practice at home. She has pre-tops practices twice a week for an extra 3 hours each (she's too young for tops, but there are girls who do tops through the same practices and there are girls from L3 through L8 or L9). I try (sometimes it's hard considering how much we spend on gymnastics) not to push her. I usually just drop her off, pick her up, and let her be. There are three other girls (one a year older than my DD, and the other two about a year and a half or so) who are clearly being drilled on skills at home. I see it on IG and FB all the time, too - parents pushing their "baby beasts" to win. I've heard the girls get upset and say that their parents tell them winning is everything. It's hard not to be affected by it when you see them cleaning up throughout season, when you see the coaches giving them extra attention and consistently saying "good job" to them (even during competitions when they don't give the same attention to ANY of the other girls on the team) and when they are rapidly progressing and leaving my DD in the dust. I know these things happen... I read it in threads on here all the time.... even though the coaches tell us not to push them, not to practice at home, etc, they also seem to be rewarding it by favoring those kids. My question is, are Elite gymnasts usually pushed at home? Should I be pushing her if that's what she wants to do (she wants to do tops and hopes)? Should I make her condition or train elements (beam etc) here? She has a pull-up bar and a laser beam (and a regular trampoline outside). But that's it. My gut tells me I shouldn't push her, but my brain sees the progress and rewards the other girls are getting and I start to second guess myself. I want to trust the coaches, but it's definitely mixed messages -though I sometimes wonder if the coaches are humoring them? I don't know anything about elite gymnastics except it's extremely difficult to get anywhere close to it....