My dd informed us today that she wants to stop doing gymnastics. Should I make her tell the coach herself? Write a letter? Say goodbye to teammates? I didn't see this coming at all and I'm still in shock.
She has generalized anxiety disorder. She says it's too much pressure (she's training L4 and only going twice a week). She just got her ro bhs and has been super excited about it. She's been freezing up the past week and not wanting to go in to practice by herself. She's signed for IGC this summer and everything! I haven't talked to her yet. She refused to get out of the car today when dh tried to take her to practice and dd told him she wants to quit.
I generally disagree with this statement. I was a competitive gymnast for many years, lived and breathed the sport, and also had a very severe anxiety disorder. While some aspects of gymnastics were much more stressful, and I did take some comments/corrections/suggestions a little bit differently than the other kids at times which added to the stress, it was also an amazing outlet for my nervous energy. Many children with a predisposition for anxiety possess traits that can be VERY helpful in the gym, or in many endeavors, as long as they are cared for properly and working with coaches who aim to understand them as best as possible. And it won't necessarily get worse as the child progresses through the levels, in fact there might be improvement as the child learns to use their traits to their advantage (not necessarily the anxiety itself, but the ability to work hard, persevere, etc.), develops a relationship with an understanding coach, and is able to speak up in times of stress/anxiety. Of course it can lead to self-destruction and that is something parents/coaches need to keep an eye out for, and to find the route of the problems so they can be dealt with, but I don't think it's fair to say things will only be more difficult as she progresses. It just kind of sounds like you're saying any kid with a predisposition for anxiety might as well not bother with competitive gymnastics, and that is definitely not the case, at least in my mind.If she an anxiety disorder gymnastics is probably VERY stressful to her... I would get to the bottom of the problem before you make a final decision. But, remember gymnastics is extremely stressful and if she has problems with now, it will only get harder in the upper levels..