LMV,
I dont know if it will make any difference to you coming from a stranger on the internet across the world, but I think you've made the right decision. It sounds like your daughter has found something she enjoys a lot- there are not many 11 year olds who choose to compete harder, scarier...
I have been lurking on this board for a while, and your post has been the first that has moved me to write something.
I was an elite gymnast in the late 90s. When i was six, my mother freaked out when my coach asked that I increase my training hours from 3 hours/week to six! (and said no!)...