Muddlethru
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- Mar 16, 2011
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We finally switched gyms. It was a much needed move and long overdue. She was in her old gym for a long time. She made wonderful friends and her coaches loved her. Since she switched, she lost that sparkle in her and smiles less often. I can see she is trying to deal with the transition, and was making progress. But she constantly gets textes, emails telling her to come back and that they love and miss her. In addition, she has friends at school that still go to the old gym. And their favourite topic is about the old gym. Lately, they tell her the coaches are really mad at her and very disappointed and that she made a really bad decision. They also told her that they may not be allowed to talk to her at meets. While I know this is part of the adjustment and transition process, I am worried about the loss of sparkle in her eyes. She does not smile as much. And for a girl who thrives and enjoys doing everything, she seems less interested. I may be putting more into this than there is because some days are better than others. Last night was tough because she was told so many things all at once and she cried hard.
To parents and gymnasts who have switched and coaches who've been the recipient of the new gymnast, how long is the adjustment process? Any advice in getting over this hurdle? Was the switch too traumatic? I'd like to hear from those who recovered and those who never recovered, if any. My daughter is a young at heart 11 year old who values fun and friends. She gets along with younger girls because she still loves to play. She is the youngest in her level. So, this may also be a factor. (Though last night for the very first time she expressed interest in buying make up just to play around. So she says. In addition, she has been reading inspirational quotes which months ago, she didn't care for.). One quote she liked was "Hard days are the best because that is when champions are made" and "Don't give up. The beginning is always the hardest.' It just breaks my heart to see her so sad.
To parents and gymnasts who have switched and coaches who've been the recipient of the new gymnast, how long is the adjustment process? Any advice in getting over this hurdle? Was the switch too traumatic? I'd like to hear from those who recovered and those who never recovered, if any. My daughter is a young at heart 11 year old who values fun and friends. She gets along with younger girls because she still loves to play. She is the youngest in her level. So, this may also be a factor. (Though last night for the very first time she expressed interest in buying make up just to play around. So she says. In addition, she has been reading inspirational quotes which months ago, she didn't care for.). One quote she liked was "Hard days are the best because that is when champions are made" and "Don't give up. The beginning is always the hardest.' It just breaks my heart to see her so sad.