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It is an unfortunate situation but really I don't see that there is alot that can be done. It's not the gyms job to be the parent monitoring these girls.
If the gym wants to do something about it they would have to put in a cyberbulling policy and clearly state what is not acceptable for their team members with consiquences like your off the team if caught. But then who will be the censor as to what can be said and what can't be said? the parents? the gym owner, the coach? Who will monitor Facebook on a regular basis to make sure that only good things are said? And will the gym only consider what is said about the gym or all aspects of their lives. Will that create the "I'm going to tell on you" situation?
It defintily is a difficult topic and unfortunatly many parents don't monitor what their kids do on the internet ever which really is the solution. I know I monitor my kids and one is 18. If they live in my home they follow my rules and one is I have all passwords and can access anything on the internet they do any time. There are no computers in bedrooms only in our "computer room" (we have a den set up with 2 computers) on the main floor so when they go to bed no access. There is no need to have access after they go to bed. My 13 yo has to let me know she is going on the computer before she logs on. To some it may sound harsh but we have had these rules in place since they were young there have been some modifications as they get older.
My DD wanted a face book account for so long because all her friends had one but the facebook rules clearly say you have to be 13 yo so she only was able to get one this past May when she turned 13. Her friends some were as young as 10 (from the team) so who set up that account and lied about the kids age just so they could do facebook? I monitor my DD on facebook very closely. Not because I don't trust her she is a good kid and I don't think would ever be mean on purpose. I monitor because I don't trust what gets posted from kids who aren't monitored and how many "kids" are really adults.
From a gym point of view you don't want to step on parenting toes but they could point out the postings to the parents and if it continues let the parents and gymnasts know that behavior can result in removal from the team. Now comes the question will a gym get rid of top gymnasts (gym queens) and risk not having those strong gymnasts on the and risk them going to other gyms to enforce this? I don't think that will happen as from a business perspective it's not a decision that will make the gym money and in the end the gym is a business and they are trying to make money.
If the gym wants to do something about it they would have to put in a cyberbulling policy and clearly state what is not acceptable for their team members with consiquences like your off the team if caught. But then who will be the censor as to what can be said and what can't be said? the parents? the gym owner, the coach? Who will monitor Facebook on a regular basis to make sure that only good things are said? And will the gym only consider what is said about the gym or all aspects of their lives. Will that create the "I'm going to tell on you" situation?
It defintily is a difficult topic and unfortunatly many parents don't monitor what their kids do on the internet ever which really is the solution. I know I monitor my kids and one is 18. If they live in my home they follow my rules and one is I have all passwords and can access anything on the internet they do any time. There are no computers in bedrooms only in our "computer room" (we have a den set up with 2 computers) on the main floor so when they go to bed no access. There is no need to have access after they go to bed. My 13 yo has to let me know she is going on the computer before she logs on. To some it may sound harsh but we have had these rules in place since they were young there have been some modifications as they get older.
My DD wanted a face book account for so long because all her friends had one but the facebook rules clearly say you have to be 13 yo so she only was able to get one this past May when she turned 13. Her friends some were as young as 10 (from the team) so who set up that account and lied about the kids age just so they could do facebook? I monitor my DD on facebook very closely. Not because I don't trust her she is a good kid and I don't think would ever be mean on purpose. I monitor because I don't trust what gets posted from kids who aren't monitored and how many "kids" are really adults.
From a gym point of view you don't want to step on parenting toes but they could point out the postings to the parents and if it continues let the parents and gymnasts know that behavior can result in removal from the team. Now comes the question will a gym get rid of top gymnasts (gym queens) and risk not having those strong gymnasts on the and risk them going to other gyms to enforce this? I don't think that will happen as from a business perspective it's not a decision that will make the gym money and in the end the gym is a business and they are trying to make money.
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