My 12 year old daughter (level 8 last season) joined our current gym a year and a half ago. They put her in the "special" group since she has a lot of talent and potential and did well in previous seasons. She did well, but not fantastic last season (placed at states but missed making regionals by a hair due to a fall which killed her AA).
Shortly after that things changed. She didn't get any attention, was moved out of the group, the head coach/owner never encourages her, and in fact diminished a major accomplishment in front of her teammates. She barely got the training she needed. She is very quiet, and even though she works hard and the coaches like her she has been treated as very average. All of the other girls in her training group were moved to a higher training schedule in order to transition to 9 this season. She is repeating level 8.
I am ok with this as she is not ready for 9. DD has some 9 skills but not as many as the others. What I am not ok with is her being cast aside. Some of the girls in her group have been put in an "elite" training group and the stars are now the focus.
The head coach/owner is not the most caring person in the world and will rip your head off if you question anything she does. It's a huge gym with a take it or leave it attitude since they are the only really good game in town. It has been frustrating and heartbreaking to say the least to see my daughter discouraged. This sport should build confidence, not rip it apart.
Has anyone dealt with this? Any advice? Dd is only 12 but wants to try to do college and with this lack of support and less training than her peers it might not even be a potential path.
We are very committed to the gym. I serve on committees, dd is always on time, rarely misses a practice, we pay our bills on time, she has regular privates, I am not a stalker mom (but I am learning that this stuff never happens to the kids of the stalker moms), always personable, never miss a meet. I just don't get it.
Shortly after that things changed. She didn't get any attention, was moved out of the group, the head coach/owner never encourages her, and in fact diminished a major accomplishment in front of her teammates. She barely got the training she needed. She is very quiet, and even though she works hard and the coaches like her she has been treated as very average. All of the other girls in her training group were moved to a higher training schedule in order to transition to 9 this season. She is repeating level 8.
I am ok with this as she is not ready for 9. DD has some 9 skills but not as many as the others. What I am not ok with is her being cast aside. Some of the girls in her group have been put in an "elite" training group and the stars are now the focus.
The head coach/owner is not the most caring person in the world and will rip your head off if you question anything she does. It's a huge gym with a take it or leave it attitude since they are the only really good game in town. It has been frustrating and heartbreaking to say the least to see my daughter discouraged. This sport should build confidence, not rip it apart.
Has anyone dealt with this? Any advice? Dd is only 12 but wants to try to do college and with this lack of support and less training than her peers it might not even be a potential path.
We are very committed to the gym. I serve on committees, dd is always on time, rarely misses a practice, we pay our bills on time, she has regular privates, I am not a stalker mom (but I am learning that this stuff never happens to the kids of the stalker moms), always personable, never miss a meet. I just don't get it.
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