I feel your pain, as I have posted earier, our gym is also "bar challenged", but mostly only at the compulsory level, the good news is that the girls seem to improve as they move through the upper levels. I don't know if the importance is not felt or if the coaching style is just better for the upper levels, all I know is that if they make it past level 7 it's all good.
Cate has been "bar challenged" since she started level 5, at first (for 2 years) it was the squat on, in level 6 it has been the connections. As a parent I have been sooooo frustrated. But heres the amazing thing. Just recently, the last few weeks to be exact, she has started loving bars. She knows she is moving to level 7, and she is just starting to make the mental connections she needed to get the routines. As I said in my post about the last meet Sunday, she was so proud of a 8.1 on bars, she only missed placing by .025, and now the fear of all things bars is starting to disappear. Coaches don't listen, but maybe the coaches were right. They didn't push her past her comfort level, they just worked consistantly with her on the routines, and OMG, one day she just got it.
In my mind I wanted her to get it faster, but I kept my mouth shut, probably out of fear, I have to be honest, and suddenly things are ok. She is really looking forward to starting to work giants, and I think we are over the biggest hurdle. Now it helped that she placed consistantly in the top three on the other events, I know we go back and forth about the importance of scores, but to the girls they love to be recognized. And I have seen the disappointment in the girls that do not place, but with time and confidence bars will get better. Will she get a 9 at states this week, no way, but she will complete her routine and I will be so proud. She is already planning her bar routine, to include the things she does well, and I guess thats all I can ask as a Mom. I am so happy to hear that "I think bars are my favorite event" I could do a cartwheel myself, I would probably end up in the hospital, but I'm that happy.
So if other events are going well, maybe it will be a case of with time it will come. If you are unhapy with the coaching on other events, I would be more likely to make a change. You know you daughter better than anyone, and I am sure you will make the right decision.