I think there is a skill bucket, and it’s prob different for different kids but when mine hyper focuses on getting a skill - something else gets booted out. When there’s no stress and it’s just training, she can keep filling that bucket. But the second someone says “you’re going to do this skill” (when it’s not perfect, on an event she’s not comfortable with) - it goes out the dang window.
From the coaches perspective, it’s a vote of confidence - she’s telling her she believes she can do this, others have been given easier dismounts so it’s not a matter of being a stickler for “we only do this”. But for my kid… you’ve now put expectations on her that she feels like she’s failing to meet.
Nothing makes a bucket shrink quite like stress and expectation. My kid had a season where she won every meet at bars (she’s generally won every meet at every level when she hasn’t fallen) - on the way to states, her favorite coach, who has known has since she was a toddler, gave her a hug and told her to go win bars and she’s going to be watching her.
I saw the look on her face the second she said she was going to be watching her. My god, that meet was a train wreck, bars was a train wreck. People don’t realize the kind of stress they put on elementary school kids, let alone the world on Simone