- Mar 22, 2025
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My daughter just barely turned 6. She's been at a gym since July and it's been going fairly well except the last 2 months maybe. She started complaining about going and would leave every class in near tears and saying how she never wanted to go back again.
It finally boiled down to the coach I think. She hardly ever pays my daughter any attention or praises her skills when she gets them right. The only interaction is periodically when she does something wrong. Otherwise my daughter will be trying to show the coach a skill while the coach watches and the coach will tell her to do it but be watching someone else instead and never actually sees her do anything.
A more specific example, my daughter has been able to do pull ups since October. The coach just barely saw 3 weeks ago and asked me if i knew she could do that....duh. she done it every class since October.
This past class my daughter didn't even get to show that she can do a pull over because the coach shoves the bar up against the wall and my daughter is on the taller side so has to walk up the wall instead of doing it the right way. Another little girl, a whole lot smaller than my girl, was able to do it because of how tiny she was. So that little girl got praised and they stopped the whole gym including team girls for her to show off and have every one cheer for her and watch her do it.
My daughter ended the class devastated. I don't know if I should switch her gyms or not.
There's another gym in the area actually closer to where we live but they run things differently and I'm not sure which would be best.
The current gym does all 4 events in an hour spending roughly 12 minutes on each. Within those every class period has stations where the kids are split up doing different things every class period and never getting corrected or helped with things they struggle with.
The potential other gym focuses on only 2 events each week and they work more one on one with the coach in taking turns and watching each other.
Is there a better method? Do I hang in at the current gym until summer where I can try to get her in with a different coach or switch her to the new gym. I just hate that my gymnastics loving daughter went from loving it to dreading. I also don't know if I'm over reacting or not.
Sorry for the book.
It finally boiled down to the coach I think. She hardly ever pays my daughter any attention or praises her skills when she gets them right. The only interaction is periodically when she does something wrong. Otherwise my daughter will be trying to show the coach a skill while the coach watches and the coach will tell her to do it but be watching someone else instead and never actually sees her do anything.
A more specific example, my daughter has been able to do pull ups since October. The coach just barely saw 3 weeks ago and asked me if i knew she could do that....duh. she done it every class since October.
This past class my daughter didn't even get to show that she can do a pull over because the coach shoves the bar up against the wall and my daughter is on the taller side so has to walk up the wall instead of doing it the right way. Another little girl, a whole lot smaller than my girl, was able to do it because of how tiny she was. So that little girl got praised and they stopped the whole gym including team girls for her to show off and have every one cheer for her and watch her do it.
My daughter ended the class devastated. I don't know if I should switch her gyms or not.
There's another gym in the area actually closer to where we live but they run things differently and I'm not sure which would be best.
The current gym does all 4 events in an hour spending roughly 12 minutes on each. Within those every class period has stations where the kids are split up doing different things every class period and never getting corrected or helped with things they struggle with.
The potential other gym focuses on only 2 events each week and they work more one on one with the coach in taking turns and watching each other.
Is there a better method? Do I hang in at the current gym until summer where I can try to get her in with a different coach or switch her to the new gym. I just hate that my gymnastics loving daughter went from loving it to dreading. I also don't know if I'm over reacting or not.
Sorry for the book.
