Jen H.
Proud Parent
- Sep 9, 2011
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Hi all,
New TCB as a poster, but a long time lurker.
My daughter Jaden (8 yo) is developmental level 5 at her gym and their competitive season is rapidly approaching.
She trains for 12 hours/3 days a week at her club. She started taking rec. classes about a year and half ago, was moved to pre-team, and then team.
Her first "real" meet is in October (she has done some in-house "fun meets").
How do you handle it when you child is very hard on herself? She will say things like "I am the only one who can't do a *insert skill*.
Sometimes after a rough day at gym she can be pretty intolerable and hard to talk to. After a good day at gym, she is as high as a kite. Fortunately we have more good days than bad.
She has amazing flexibility, and once she gets a skill, she pretty much has it. But she is often one of the last ones to gain a skill in her group.
I have found myself giving her platitudes like "the turtle wins the raise", and to just keep giving it her best, and reminding her just how much she improved in a few short months over the summer. But then I start to second guess myself at times when I hear that other girls are taking supplemental tumbling or ballet classes. I am trying so hard to be supportive, and not feed into the insanity that seems to have taken hold of some of the other parents, but in all honesty it is hard!
I have complete faith in her coaches and their program, but it is hard knowing how to deal with with a frustrated child who is so hard on herself. I want to do all that I can to support her, but man, it is hard sometimes!
Any wise words of wisdom, sage advice, or just tell me to STHU and let her do her thing?!
New TCB as a poster, but a long time lurker.
My daughter Jaden (8 yo) is developmental level 5 at her gym and their competitive season is rapidly approaching.
She trains for 12 hours/3 days a week at her club. She started taking rec. classes about a year and half ago, was moved to pre-team, and then team.
Her first "real" meet is in October (she has done some in-house "fun meets").
How do you handle it when you child is very hard on herself? She will say things like "I am the only one who can't do a *insert skill*.
Sometimes after a rough day at gym she can be pretty intolerable and hard to talk to. After a good day at gym, she is as high as a kite. Fortunately we have more good days than bad.
She has amazing flexibility, and once she gets a skill, she pretty much has it. But she is often one of the last ones to gain a skill in her group.
I have found myself giving her platitudes like "the turtle wins the raise", and to just keep giving it her best, and reminding her just how much she improved in a few short months over the summer. But then I start to second guess myself at times when I hear that other girls are taking supplemental tumbling or ballet classes. I am trying so hard to be supportive, and not feed into the insanity that seems to have taken hold of some of the other parents, but in all honesty it is hard!
I have complete faith in her coaches and their program, but it is hard knowing how to deal with with a frustrated child who is so hard on herself. I want to do all that I can to support her, but man, it is hard sometimes!
Any wise words of wisdom, sage advice, or just tell me to STHU and let her do her thing?!