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EmmasMommy
Emma had her evaluation at the other gym today. We just got back. She did great and had fun. She kept up with TOPS girls and learned new skills within a few tries. And they would put her into level 4 (new level 3) in the fall, even if she didn't start there until Summer.
BUT
She's afraid of one thing that is required there. Their conditioning area is on an elevated platform (second story overlooking first story) and there's a high bar there that she would have to do her leg lifts on. And she WILL NOT try it (even with the coach holding her) because she's afraid of how high up it is.
So, they said if she can come back and try it, she's on the team. But Emma says she would rather stay at her current gym. (I think it's because of the pressure there, because she does have to do things at her current gym that she is afraid of and she usually gets over her fears within a week or two; normally she would rather overcome a fear to learn new skills)
This gym said they've never dealt with kids being afraid of anything like that and they are worried down the line it will transfer to skills, which I understand (especially because they don't know my daughter and don't realize that within a few weeks it will be a non-issue).
It's tough because her current gym won't move her up even though she has the skills, but they wouldn't hold her back because of fear, either. But the gym we visited today wouldn't hold her back since she knows the skills, but will hold her back because of fears.
With Emma, I've noticed she might be the last person to try something (because she's afraid) but still the 1st person to get the skill. Her strength is in being a fast learner and her weakness is in getting scared of new things. It's a shame her fear gets her in way, but the only way to fix that is through exposure, which she isn't going to get where she's at and can't get in the new gym if she can't go there without first getting over the fear.
She'd rather go to the new gym and do the new skills, but not if she's going to have to do conditioning on the platform. (She asked why they can't have her do is somewhere lower first and THEN move her up higher, but for them it's all about not being afraid).
Anyway, long story short, it looks like she will be staying where she is. She's fine with that, and I guess it helps her current gym has known her forever and so they understand how she works and work with her based on that. I do wish her current gym would put her in a higher skill level, and I've been thinking about talking to them about it, but I don't want to see like a pushy gym mom and doubt they would do it anyway. I guess every gym has their own ways and you just have to find the one you fit in best.
BUT
She's afraid of one thing that is required there. Their conditioning area is on an elevated platform (second story overlooking first story) and there's a high bar there that she would have to do her leg lifts on. And she WILL NOT try it (even with the coach holding her) because she's afraid of how high up it is.
So, they said if she can come back and try it, she's on the team. But Emma says she would rather stay at her current gym. (I think it's because of the pressure there, because she does have to do things at her current gym that she is afraid of and she usually gets over her fears within a week or two; normally she would rather overcome a fear to learn new skills)
This gym said they've never dealt with kids being afraid of anything like that and they are worried down the line it will transfer to skills, which I understand (especially because they don't know my daughter and don't realize that within a few weeks it will be a non-issue).
It's tough because her current gym won't move her up even though she has the skills, but they wouldn't hold her back because of fear, either. But the gym we visited today wouldn't hold her back since she knows the skills, but will hold her back because of fears.
With Emma, I've noticed she might be the last person to try something (because she's afraid) but still the 1st person to get the skill. Her strength is in being a fast learner and her weakness is in getting scared of new things. It's a shame her fear gets her in way, but the only way to fix that is through exposure, which she isn't going to get where she's at and can't get in the new gym if she can't go there without first getting over the fear.
She'd rather go to the new gym and do the new skills, but not if she's going to have to do conditioning on the platform. (She asked why they can't have her do is somewhere lower first and THEN move her up higher, but for them it's all about not being afraid).
Anyway, long story short, it looks like she will be staying where she is. She's fine with that, and I guess it helps her current gym has known her forever and so they understand how she works and work with her based on that. I do wish her current gym would put her in a higher skill level, and I've been thinking about talking to them about it, but I don't want to see like a pushy gym mom and doubt they would do it anyway. I guess every gym has their own ways and you just have to find the one you fit in best.