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Anonymous (d367)
I’m the mom of a level 5 at a gym that very much treats this as an up-or-out year and was just hit by a surprise divorce filing from my husband.
Her dad/my husband has been very disengaged as a parent but has gone to court to get a temporary order for weekends and breaks until our final decree.
I’m pretty terrified for everything that might happen, but coming here specifically to see if anyone has had experience with rigid custody arrangements and gymnastics meet season.
My husband has always been supportive of my daughter’s gymnastics when it’s going well, but he’s hands off in spite of me begging him to learn and help. The the hard parts, especially meet preparation, have been on her and me. We live somewhere that requires at least an overnight before most meets. Thinking about my husband leaving my daughter to her own devices to figure out her pre-meet dinners, bedtime mental prep routine, morning wake up times and somehow doing her own meet hair for an 8 am session is overwhelming.
Has anyone gotten their daughter through meet season with an unexpected custody shift? My daughter is in 4th grade so not old enough that she has the executive functioning skills to plan meals/wakeups/nutrition etc for meets, and hair is definitely not happening. My husband has burnt a lot of bridges at our gym with past rude behavior and this surprise fling, but thinks that other moms will magically step in and take care of what he doesn’t want to do on meet weekends.
Please reassure me or give me tips on how to structure custody to work around this! I have an attorney who I’ll talk to specifically about this, but chalkbucket stays up later and is more affordable than he is.
Her dad/my husband has been very disengaged as a parent but has gone to court to get a temporary order for weekends and breaks until our final decree.
I’m pretty terrified for everything that might happen, but coming here specifically to see if anyone has had experience with rigid custody arrangements and gymnastics meet season.
My husband has always been supportive of my daughter’s gymnastics when it’s going well, but he’s hands off in spite of me begging him to learn and help. The the hard parts, especially meet preparation, have been on her and me. We live somewhere that requires at least an overnight before most meets. Thinking about my husband leaving my daughter to her own devices to figure out her pre-meet dinners, bedtime mental prep routine, morning wake up times and somehow doing her own meet hair for an 8 am session is overwhelming.
Has anyone gotten their daughter through meet season with an unexpected custody shift? My daughter is in 4th grade so not old enough that she has the executive functioning skills to plan meals/wakeups/nutrition etc for meets, and hair is definitely not happening. My husband has burnt a lot of bridges at our gym with past rude behavior and this surprise fling, but thinks that other moms will magically step in and take care of what he doesn’t want to do on meet weekends.
Please reassure me or give me tips on how to structure custody to work around this! I have an attorney who I’ll talk to specifically about this, but chalkbucket stays up later and is more affordable than he is.
