happychaos
Proud Parent
- Jul 29, 2011
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I know different kids respond best to different coaching styles. My DD's old gym didn't tolerate fear. Whatever skill the coach told you to do, you did. There was no time to think about it, and no chance to "skip" that station. When DD first started on team this was a new and stressful way of being coached. But she got used to it, and progressed nicely.
For many reasons, we eventually switched gyms. Overall, the coaching is much better, except in this one area. The coaches seem much more willing to indulge gymnast's fears. Extra spotting, ignoring station-skipping, letting a gymnast take it at their own pace, etc.
I realize this coaching style may be perfect for some gymnasts, but my DD is one who, when the coach knows she's ready, needs to be made to do it right then. My DD is prone to be a little anxious, and being allowed to "postpone the inevitable" is not a good thing for her. It really stresses DD out to have to wonder and decide if she is going to "go for it" that day, or chicken out.
Would it be appropriate to speak to her coaches about this? I'm afraid they'll think I'm nuts, especially since DD is progressing just fine. And don't most parents want the coach to ease up, not crack down? How in the world would I discuss this without sounding like CGM of the century? It doesn't even have anything to do with progression, DD is just much less stressed when the coach just tells her what to do and when to do it.
For many reasons, we eventually switched gyms. Overall, the coaching is much better, except in this one area. The coaches seem much more willing to indulge gymnast's fears. Extra spotting, ignoring station-skipping, letting a gymnast take it at their own pace, etc.
I realize this coaching style may be perfect for some gymnasts, but my DD is one who, when the coach knows she's ready, needs to be made to do it right then. My DD is prone to be a little anxious, and being allowed to "postpone the inevitable" is not a good thing for her. It really stresses DD out to have to wonder and decide if she is going to "go for it" that day, or chicken out.
Would it be appropriate to speak to her coaches about this? I'm afraid they'll think I'm nuts, especially since DD is progressing just fine. And don't most parents want the coach to ease up, not crack down? How in the world would I discuss this without sounding like CGM of the century? It doesn't even have anything to do with progression, DD is just much less stressed when the coach just tells her what to do and when to do it.