I'm not looking for advice or sympathy only looking to vent.
Quick back story. Dd started on a gymnastics team when she was 6. She did a year on preteam and then spent 3 years as a level 4. There was one gym change during that time which was due to scheduling conflicts. The first gym didn't work form at all and the second gym worked form some but didn't really push it hard. Anyway, she was in her second year of level 5 when we moved to another state and she started at a new gym that competes in a non USAG league.
For the past 3 years dd has had massive back tumbling issues. She will tell you she has no idea what she is afraid of she is just afraid. Dd who is now 12 will do a ROBHSBHS but someone has to be on the floor. It took her last coach some time, many private lessons and lots of patience to get dd to this point. The coach doesn't really have to touch her, they just need to be nearby or she will balk everytime. She also has on and off issues with backwalkovers but is currently doing them without issue. I told her new gym that she has issues and was told no problem they would work with her and spot her as long as she needs it.
The gym recently decided to start doing some USAG meets and invited her to join their level 5 group. A few weeks later they said that she could join the USAG group with a stipulation on getting her BHS. I declined the USAG invite. I didn't want to add the additional pressure.
Now this week a coach tells dd that if she doesn't get her BHS she is off the team. Dd is not the kind of child where threats like that will motivate her. Today dd said she was trying to do a FWO and fell and she overheard the same coach tell another coach, "she's not even trying." to which dd believes the other coach responded with, "I know". Now I'll give the coach some leeway that the conversation wasn't exactly what dd thinks it was but it doesn't change that it affected dd in a negative way.
I'll admit that dd isn't the hardest worker in the gym but she does really try. I do believe that her tumbling issues are partly due to vestibular maturity because she only recently got to the place where she doesn't get car sick easily and partly due to habit. I also will say that I think the coaches at her gym are great and really care about the kids but the team is huge and the coaches can only do so much.
Needless to say, Dd was in tears on the ride home. I asked her if she wanted to quit the team and she said she did and she didn't. She likes gymnastics but she doesn't see how she can do what they want her to do. I personally don't care if she ever does back tumbling without assistance but I know it limits her ability to progress in the sport. Anyway, I told her it didn't matter to me what she decided to do and if she wanted to quit the team and just do classes, that would be fine too. She's going to take the weekend to think about it. I'll personally miss watching her do gymnastics but I really hope she decides to quit because it's painful to watch her struggle so much with this issue.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent in a place where others will understand and hopefully it doesn't get me in trouble with her gym.
Quick back story. Dd started on a gymnastics team when she was 6. She did a year on preteam and then spent 3 years as a level 4. There was one gym change during that time which was due to scheduling conflicts. The first gym didn't work form at all and the second gym worked form some but didn't really push it hard. Anyway, she was in her second year of level 5 when we moved to another state and she started at a new gym that competes in a non USAG league.
For the past 3 years dd has had massive back tumbling issues. She will tell you she has no idea what she is afraid of she is just afraid. Dd who is now 12 will do a ROBHSBHS but someone has to be on the floor. It took her last coach some time, many private lessons and lots of patience to get dd to this point. The coach doesn't really have to touch her, they just need to be nearby or she will balk everytime. She also has on and off issues with backwalkovers but is currently doing them without issue. I told her new gym that she has issues and was told no problem they would work with her and spot her as long as she needs it.
The gym recently decided to start doing some USAG meets and invited her to join their level 5 group. A few weeks later they said that she could join the USAG group with a stipulation on getting her BHS. I declined the USAG invite. I didn't want to add the additional pressure.
Now this week a coach tells dd that if she doesn't get her BHS she is off the team. Dd is not the kind of child where threats like that will motivate her. Today dd said she was trying to do a FWO and fell and she overheard the same coach tell another coach, "she's not even trying." to which dd believes the other coach responded with, "I know". Now I'll give the coach some leeway that the conversation wasn't exactly what dd thinks it was but it doesn't change that it affected dd in a negative way.
I'll admit that dd isn't the hardest worker in the gym but she does really try. I do believe that her tumbling issues are partly due to vestibular maturity because she only recently got to the place where she doesn't get car sick easily and partly due to habit. I also will say that I think the coaches at her gym are great and really care about the kids but the team is huge and the coaches can only do so much.
Needless to say, Dd was in tears on the ride home. I asked her if she wanted to quit the team and she said she did and she didn't. She likes gymnastics but she doesn't see how she can do what they want her to do. I personally don't care if she ever does back tumbling without assistance but I know it limits her ability to progress in the sport. Anyway, I told her it didn't matter to me what she decided to do and if she wanted to quit the team and just do classes, that would be fine too. She's going to take the weekend to think about it. I'll personally miss watching her do gymnastics but I really hope she decides to quit because it's painful to watch her struggle so much with this issue.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent in a place where others will understand and hopefully it doesn't get me in trouble with her gym.