Ariekannairb
Proud Parent
We had a sudden gym change mid-season last year. We found 2 gyms, one we loved and one we liked. We chose the 2nd because of the drive. Even that one is a 45 minute drive (I live in the middle of nowhere). Anyways, rules are, if you move mid-season you don't get to finish competing the season. I understand the rule and agree with it. So DD spent all of last season training level 3. She competed twice, prior to the move. She has all of the level 3 skills. New gym tells us that she is moving up to the level 4 training group this summer. DD decides that she needs a break and we take 2 weeks and DD comes back excited! Coach confirms various times the DD is in fact going to be in the level 4 training group, but when practices actually happen she is consistently placed in the up-coming level 3 group. DD asks again, and is again told that she is training level 4, but continues to be placed in the up coming level 3 group. Those girls are gaining new skills, DD is bored out of her mind doing windmills and so on. She is on the level 4 training schedule which gives her 1 day per week with the girls being trained to move to level 4. But 1 day per week isn't going to be enough to get her kip in time for the season. Basically, training the way she is gives her no hope of a level 4 season. What is really frustrating is that we are being told she is training for level 4 but in actual practice she is not. There has not been a single practice, save yesterdays when no other level 3 girls were there, that she has practiced level 4 skills. Tonight the level 3 girls will be there and we are fully expecting that she will be bumped back to that group.
We are new to this gym, DD hasn't actually competed with them and has so far had a hard time feeling a part of the team. We aren't expecting to get special treatment, but I did write the coach to ask for clarification as DD told me she feels like she is in trouble for something and quite frankly, she is just confused as to why she is being told 1 thing but training another. I watched her last night, and while I defer to the coaches wisdom most of the time, there was no difference in my DD's skills and the other girls that were training level 4 other than the kip which could easily be because she simply hasn't been able to train it as much.
After last year's disaster and moving to this gym to have all of this confusion happen, I feel like giving up. I get that there will always be something I don't like, and I don't actually think I am "that mom", but I feel like situations keep popping up that are forcing me to be. I don't want to hop gyms. It takes a long time to feel settled and to feel a part of a team, but DD isn't feeling it here because of the lack of communication. She feels pushed to the side and frankly, that is what looks like is happening. Like they have already bonded with their team and DD is the new girl who can't quite find her place. It makes me want to give up. I just want to go to a gym, have my daughter be the best she can be, enjoy the sport and progress at a reasonable rate for her ability. She is highly driven and her enthusiasm is slowly dying with all of these things that keep happening.
We are new to this gym, DD hasn't actually competed with them and has so far had a hard time feeling a part of the team. We aren't expecting to get special treatment, but I did write the coach to ask for clarification as DD told me she feels like she is in trouble for something and quite frankly, she is just confused as to why she is being told 1 thing but training another. I watched her last night, and while I defer to the coaches wisdom most of the time, there was no difference in my DD's skills and the other girls that were training level 4 other than the kip which could easily be because she simply hasn't been able to train it as much.
After last year's disaster and moving to this gym to have all of this confusion happen, I feel like giving up. I get that there will always be something I don't like, and I don't actually think I am "that mom", but I feel like situations keep popping up that are forcing me to be. I don't want to hop gyms. It takes a long time to feel settled and to feel a part of a team, but DD isn't feeling it here because of the lack of communication. She feels pushed to the side and frankly, that is what looks like is happening. Like they have already bonded with their team and DD is the new girl who can't quite find her place. It makes me want to give up. I just want to go to a gym, have my daughter be the best she can be, enjoy the sport and progress at a reasonable rate for her ability. She is highly driven and her enthusiasm is slowly dying with all of these things that keep happening.