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lilgymmie7
In light of all of the crazy, scary reality shows like Dance Moms and Toddlers and Tiaras, I am really trying to understand what would draw parents so to the brink of forsaking their own child for what looks like to an outsider as 15 minutes of fame. I posted a few months back about this same thing because it hit very close to home. Luckily for us, my DH has seen the errors of his ways. And just this week, a long time friend made a comment to me that, "You had to break me in..." I taught both of her children at one point. We both knew and laughed a bit when she made that comment. I know what she meant.
It seems that many parents find themselves so attached to their child's activity/sport and sometimes they loose themselves. As a teacher, I feel it is a need as well as a survival tactic to try to figure these kinds of parents out. If I am to reach a child academically, I have to do so socially as well. That brings to mind their relations with their parents. I work at a school where children are involved in many extra-curricular activities. We have a few aspiring models in our school as well. These little cuties can be seen on local commercials and in department store ads. How long is it until I come across another self-absorbed, far too attached parent? I don't think many realize how far out there they really are.
I have talked about this with many of my non-sport/activity friends who are parents. However, they see things as I do...What is the point of getting so involved. I realize if I am to get well thought out replies it has to come from parents involved in sports and maybe some who went a little over board. I myself fit the latter point. With my older DD, I have admitted that I myself wanted what she had when she was in gym, talent and foreign (don't ask me why please) coaches. I overlooked MANY things until at last I saw my poor kid breaking apart.
My question is this: Why, seriously, do parents feel the urge to become so involved in their child's sport/activity/life? What causes them to NOT see the harm done on both ends? How do you deal with these kinds of parents? (I don't think ignoring them is an answer. These people need help.)
Please really think about your responses. I know that in my profession, I will certainly encounter parents like those on the television. How can I advocate for a child in my class if I just ignore their parent? I also know that all of my children have friends whose parents fit this bill. I can't have my children loose friendships by just pulling them away from their friends. But I also can't just let them HEAR some of the negativity involved.
I don't BRAG to much about my kids on here because that is one way that I can 'squash' any of my attempts to get too involved. I try to use this forum to find answers to pressing questions. This one has been on my mind for a long time. I can't watch T.V. because the over and abundance of these reality shows that glorify these Crazy parents. Kate Gosselin being one that started it all...
It seems that many parents find themselves so attached to their child's activity/sport and sometimes they loose themselves. As a teacher, I feel it is a need as well as a survival tactic to try to figure these kinds of parents out. If I am to reach a child academically, I have to do so socially as well. That brings to mind their relations with their parents. I work at a school where children are involved in many extra-curricular activities. We have a few aspiring models in our school as well. These little cuties can be seen on local commercials and in department store ads. How long is it until I come across another self-absorbed, far too attached parent? I don't think many realize how far out there they really are.
I have talked about this with many of my non-sport/activity friends who are parents. However, they see things as I do...What is the point of getting so involved. I realize if I am to get well thought out replies it has to come from parents involved in sports and maybe some who went a little over board. I myself fit the latter point. With my older DD, I have admitted that I myself wanted what she had when she was in gym, talent and foreign (don't ask me why please) coaches. I overlooked MANY things until at last I saw my poor kid breaking apart.
My question is this: Why, seriously, do parents feel the urge to become so involved in their child's sport/activity/life? What causes them to NOT see the harm done on both ends? How do you deal with these kinds of parents? (I don't think ignoring them is an answer. These people need help.)
Please really think about your responses. I know that in my profession, I will certainly encounter parents like those on the television. How can I advocate for a child in my class if I just ignore their parent? I also know that all of my children have friends whose parents fit this bill. I can't have my children loose friendships by just pulling them away from their friends. But I also can't just let them HEAR some of the negativity involved.
I don't BRAG to much about my kids on here because that is one way that I can 'squash' any of my attempts to get too involved. I try to use this forum to find answers to pressing questions. This one has been on my mind for a long time. I can't watch T.V. because the over and abundance of these reality shows that glorify these Crazy parents. Kate Gosselin being one that started it all...