gymmomof1
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- Oct 23, 2009
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All I can say is WOW.
My exact thought!!! Disturbing too.
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All I can say is WOW.
I have to admit that I would have been a little offended by your speech too. Not all of it because I would agree with some of it, but really what is it to you if someone's child responds well to a reward system?
I personally use a reward system for my child in many aspects of her life because this is very motivating to her. The rewards are small. I can't afford to get her a new leo for every new skill but she did ask me if I would give her a massage if she made her giant unspotted last month. So yeah, I did reward her for that particular skill with that reward. She also asked if I would get her a new saddle blanket if she made a certain time around some barrels. She didn't make her prescribed time so didn't get the blanket. But it was motivating for her to try.
I also ask DD about how practice went if I didn't stay to watch, how her friends did (out of love, not competition). I also guess I encourage her to do some practicing at home by allowing her access to a beam, tramp, and mats. I don't coerce and no child should be forced or guilted into extra home practice.
This environment does sound toxic. No child should enjoy the failure of another. That is simply mean. However, I think the message maybe went a little too far and perhaps didn't come from the most appropriate messenger. As a parent, I would have been thinking something along the line of "who died and made her Nadia?" if another parent lectured me in such a way. However, a coach should DEFINITELY be giving this message to the parents. And he should also get the bullying squashed out VERY QUICKLY.
Nadia???Pfft,I am so much more then Nadia,I am Douglas,I am Nastia,I am Marta,I am Valeri....I am the queen of gymnastics knowledge and wisdom.Bow down to me and I shall guide you into the light....or not.
I trully hoped that they would be so offended that they would leave,I failed,I will try harder next time. There are no words to descibe what scum and filth these ambitious,destructive loosers truly are..
Just curious...are there other gyms around or only the one your daughter attends?
I'd be out of that gym in a minute!
you mention she goes to school with them etc...
personally, I love that my daughter's 'gym life' is separate from her school life.
I wouldn't want her with the same kids 24/7.
If you have a place to switch to, you should look into it!
Epilogue to all the melodrama:
The group has been split up for over 2 months now.
DD is thriving.
We often hear how this sport is often a balance between the kid the parents and the coach.Perhaps we should keep in mind a fouth element :the group dynamic.We should perhaps occasionally ask :Is there some normal healthy competition between team girls,or has it slipped to the dark ugly side.
If you fear things are slipping,talk to the coaches.