CoachMeg
Coach
- Oct 17, 2014
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It seems that your daughter is extremely talented and definitely headed toward the path of an elite. As a coach, I can definitely relate to coaching 9 year olds and everything that comes with it. That said, a lot of the 9 year olds I coach are between levels 4-6. So the coaching methods used between me and your daughter's coaches are probably vastly different. We do have a 12 year old level 10 at our gym, and her coaches are a lot harder on her than the 12 year old level 5s. While keeping the gymnast's age in mind is very important when coaching, you also have to change your coaching style as you train different level gymnasts. The upper level coaches at my gym are very strict on our level 10 and she puts in a lot of training hours and conditioning and corrections and flexibility, even though she's only 12. It seems to me that your daughter's coaches are just trying to train her as a very high level gymnast, and with that comes some tough practices. It's not going to be all games and praise when you're working with those higher levels. When you're working with compulsories (which is what I do), you coach mainly by praise, and then add in a correction or two (for example "I loved how pointed your toes were and how straight your legs were, but next time keep your head in"). However in the upper levels (9/10/elite), the praise isn't as constant. You might here 30 corrections before you hear a single compliment and that's just because of how hard the skills and also because you want to train your higher level gymnasts to strive for perfection. If I trained my level 3s like that, they'd quit the sport in a week. But if you baby-fy your elites, you're risking injury as well as a non-perfectionist training attitude. Not that praise isn't important, because it is VERY important. But it comes in different doses the higher you train. Maybe her coaches are too caught up in training her and see her potential that they are constantly pushing her to get new skills, and they forget to praise her for her accomplishments.
I would not jump to conclusions and assume they are mentally abusing her. If she were a level 4 and they were coaching her like that, I would be more concerned. But given her high level and potential, I just think they pushing her through skills and levels maybe a little too fast than what she is comfortable with, which is causing her stress. She's probably throwing these huge skills that few other girls in her gym are doing and expecting/wanting a lot of praise but instead getting corrections and then a harder skill to try, which is causing her stress and making her feel like she'll never please them.
My advice to you is to go watch one of her practices (or maybe a couple), and seeing how they treat her. If they're yelling at her constantly then I would pull her out immediately and take her to a new gym. But if they're just pushing her harder than the other girls, I would try to make her understand that they just think she's super talented and want her to go as far as she can in the sport. Training to be an elite is not easy! Especially at such a young age.
I would not jump to conclusions and assume they are mentally abusing her. If she were a level 4 and they were coaching her like that, I would be more concerned. But given her high level and potential, I just think they pushing her through skills and levels maybe a little too fast than what she is comfortable with, which is causing her stress. She's probably throwing these huge skills that few other girls in her gym are doing and expecting/wanting a lot of praise but instead getting corrections and then a harder skill to try, which is causing her stress and making her feel like she'll never please them.
My advice to you is to go watch one of her practices (or maybe a couple), and seeing how they treat her. If they're yelling at her constantly then I would pull her out immediately and take her to a new gym. But if they're just pushing her harder than the other girls, I would try to make her understand that they just think she's super talented and want her to go as far as she can in the sport. Training to be an elite is not easy! Especially at such a young age.