- Jan 9, 2011
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Hi everyone! Bear with me please, as this got fairly long...
Some background of gym politics... We are very new to the gym team experience (though DD has been in rec for almost 3 yrs) - DD just began Level 3. At our gym, they do not compete L3's, they use it as sort of a pre-team I guess, and actually begin training for L4. DD goes a total of 3 hrs per week at the moment. This summer, it will bump up to 4 hours. The ages of the team range from 4.5 - nearly 7 years old. L3 is age-capped at 7 years old (meaning, no 8 year olds allowed on L3). The girls will be required to try out for L4 in December, which they usually fill about 18 spots and have 80ish girls trying out. Though, the idea here is that most L3's should (theoretically) make the team. That's what L3 is for after all. But if not, well, lets just say we're paying a ton of money for ... ? This especially stinks as my DD will not be eligible to repeat L3 next year as she'd turn 8 during the year. This past years L3's that did not make team are in rec classes now.
Now for the drama... It was recently brought to my attention that the owner has some serious life issues going on (another parent overheard, who told me, but it is rather obvious). Without specifically stating why in a public forum... this is extremely capable of seriously affecting the gym. In fact, we I went about 6 months without seeing the owner and the rec side of the gym was restructured a bit to give more autonomy to the coaches. Owner's now back in the gym a bit, but this likely will not last forever. Reasons are highly secretive and I honestly wish I didn't know.
Add to this, I've had a couple of discussion with our *favorite* rec coach (DD had her a long time, and honestly gave my DD some preferential coaching treatment, right or wrong), who's own girls went through team at our gym (one is still on team). There were some issues that the girls faced, and coach just left our gym to greener pastures. Just pulled her kid and quit herself. This is someone I've learned to trust very much, and who I've used a bit to navigate the system at our gym (pre-team classes, etc, are very secretive, that sort of thing). Again, we are a very large gym that is fairly successful. She left for another successful program.
Other issues: When I see/hear older team girls on tumbletrak, the coaches sound VERY negative. Just pointing out what was wrong with their tumbling. No energy to them. Seem a bit disinterested. Caveat: DD's current coach seems very upbeat, motivated, smiles a lot, and she is also the L4 coach... So DD would have her for awhile.
But to add to it, I have a little guy in tot classes, too. He loves it, but should he want to do team some day... all I hear is the boys coach yelling at them (normal, as they are rambunctious boys?? No clue) and we have no upper-level boys either. Granted, he is young and could decide he prefers football, or video-gaming, or watching TV, or something.
A part of me wouldn't mind having DD tested at the "other gym". This other gym, however, has recently produced an olympic-caliber gymnast (just last cycle). Not sure that will be DD, or of her possibilities, and want her to be able to compete if she so desires... Gym is further, but could definitely make it work.
I am nervous. My DD has anxiety issues and self-confidence issues and I'd hate to see her get beaten down in our gym. I originally enrolled her in gym because she's got sensory issues and needed some socialization, and she just loved it. I thought it would build self-confidence in the long term, but now am not so sure.
I know she loves her current teammates (was in an invite-only "Future Mites" class with them for 8 months before L3). If our gym closes eventually (or changes ownership)... well lets say I'd hate that too.
A part of me wants to pull my dd. A part of me wants to stay. Any ideas on how to navigate this? Am I just not cut our for being a mom of team gymnastics? Do I play wait and see, and give L3 a good chance and see how things play out? I want to be proactive, but at the same time don't want to jump ship at first sign of hardship either. Just some things at our current gym worry me.
Some background of gym politics... We are very new to the gym team experience (though DD has been in rec for almost 3 yrs) - DD just began Level 3. At our gym, they do not compete L3's, they use it as sort of a pre-team I guess, and actually begin training for L4. DD goes a total of 3 hrs per week at the moment. This summer, it will bump up to 4 hours. The ages of the team range from 4.5 - nearly 7 years old. L3 is age-capped at 7 years old (meaning, no 8 year olds allowed on L3). The girls will be required to try out for L4 in December, which they usually fill about 18 spots and have 80ish girls trying out. Though, the idea here is that most L3's should (theoretically) make the team. That's what L3 is for after all. But if not, well, lets just say we're paying a ton of money for ... ? This especially stinks as my DD will not be eligible to repeat L3 next year as she'd turn 8 during the year. This past years L3's that did not make team are in rec classes now.

Now for the drama... It was recently brought to my attention that the owner has some serious life issues going on (another parent overheard, who told me, but it is rather obvious). Without specifically stating why in a public forum... this is extremely capable of seriously affecting the gym. In fact, we I went about 6 months without seeing the owner and the rec side of the gym was restructured a bit to give more autonomy to the coaches. Owner's now back in the gym a bit, but this likely will not last forever. Reasons are highly secretive and I honestly wish I didn't know.
Add to this, I've had a couple of discussion with our *favorite* rec coach (DD had her a long time, and honestly gave my DD some preferential coaching treatment, right or wrong), who's own girls went through team at our gym (one is still on team). There were some issues that the girls faced, and coach just left our gym to greener pastures. Just pulled her kid and quit herself. This is someone I've learned to trust very much, and who I've used a bit to navigate the system at our gym (pre-team classes, etc, are very secretive, that sort of thing). Again, we are a very large gym that is fairly successful. She left for another successful program.
Other issues: When I see/hear older team girls on tumbletrak, the coaches sound VERY negative. Just pointing out what was wrong with their tumbling. No energy to them. Seem a bit disinterested. Caveat: DD's current coach seems very upbeat, motivated, smiles a lot, and she is also the L4 coach... So DD would have her for awhile.
But to add to it, I have a little guy in tot classes, too. He loves it, but should he want to do team some day... all I hear is the boys coach yelling at them (normal, as they are rambunctious boys?? No clue) and we have no upper-level boys either. Granted, he is young and could decide he prefers football, or video-gaming, or watching TV, or something.
A part of me wouldn't mind having DD tested at the "other gym". This other gym, however, has recently produced an olympic-caliber gymnast (just last cycle). Not sure that will be DD, or of her possibilities, and want her to be able to compete if she so desires... Gym is further, but could definitely make it work.
I am nervous. My DD has anxiety issues and self-confidence issues and I'd hate to see her get beaten down in our gym. I originally enrolled her in gym because she's got sensory issues and needed some socialization, and she just loved it. I thought it would build self-confidence in the long term, but now am not so sure.
I know she loves her current teammates (was in an invite-only "Future Mites" class with them for 8 months before L3). If our gym closes eventually (or changes ownership)... well lets say I'd hate that too.
A part of me wants to pull my dd. A part of me wants to stay. Any ideas on how to navigate this? Am I just not cut our for being a mom of team gymnastics? Do I play wait and see, and give L3 a good chance and see how things play out? I want to be proactive, but at the same time don't want to jump ship at first sign of hardship either. Just some things at our current gym worry me.