Parents Struggling to make a good gym transfer decision

[PurpleButterfly]

My daughter has been doing two group classes and two private lessons a week 1 hour each (4hours of gym total a week). She was 6, and was given her certificate finishing beginning, but told she couldn’t move up until 7, and stayed in beginning classes for a few months until they let her move up a few weeks before her birthday. She’s at the only gym in her area where intermediate classes are only 50 min, every other gym is 90min or longer. We started considering/looking for a gym closer to us due to commute (we currently commute 50 minutes each way) . , recently being told that her coach (who is a team coach) can’t do privates with her anymore because she’s not on team, being told by her other coach that moving up to 1.5 hour lessons wouldn’t be beneficial(I worry about not having a bridge between 1 hour classes and 3, so I requested it). During the eval process for different gyms, we got wildly different answers on her placement. One only tested her strength and told us the rec program person would reach out (they never did). Another gym told us she’s pretty much level 3 after a 50 min eval and with a few privates could easily gain the two missing skills to be a solid 3.

One gym placed her in PreTeam and she’s now doing a PreTeam trial there, but it’s 3 hour classes 3 days a week, and coming from only 1 hour classes, it was a tough one today. None of the coaches said anything to me, nor introduced themselves and the one coach for one of her stations that I was able to flag down after told me she was ‘doing things the way she wanted and not listening’. I talked to my daughter after and she said she couldn’t understand his accent (heavy Russian accent, I don’t think he undterstood me when I was trying to tell him she came from another gym with way shorter classes)

I feel like she’s being thrown to the wolves and the lack of warmth or even ‘Hi! Welcome!’ Is a blow. She kept up most of the time, could do about 85% of what the other girls were doing. Is this what these programs are like? Is this what I need to get her used too? I feel like I can already see the writing on the wall that she’s not going to pass the trial, and I just don’t know how to prepare her. Let her keep going through the trial, or just go back to the gym we were at and call it a day? I don’t know how best to advocate for my child at these gyms and help her with these transitions, and I don’t know how to evaluate gyms for their quality, there’s so little info online!

 

[NutterButter]

Honestly, I had a hard time reading your post with the rambling and odd punctuation so I’m not even sure I understand what the most important issue is to you. Is the length of practice the most pressing issue, followed by commute?

I would say go with the gym where you/your child feel most comfortable. An accent can take a while to get used to if you aren’t used to hearing it and going from a one hour practice to 3 hours can also take a while for a kid to adjust. A coach should be cognizant of this though and if her coach is not I would consider this a potential red flag. Afterall she is only 6.

9 hours a week for L3 is not unusual. If you think that’s too much your options are to keep her in rec, ask if she can do L2 or Xcel( if that’s even an option) or try to negotiate a shorter practice. If a 50 min commute is too much now, just know that hours ramp up sooner than you think and you will want to keep in mind your work and family situation in deciding if this is feasible for you long term.

Assuming all of the gym environments are safe with positive coaching there may not be a ‘right’ path forward but rather a path that checks the most boxes for you and your daughter.