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She still claims to LOVE the sport and really identifies as a gymnast.
I think the first place you need to start as a parent is to sort out what your expectations are vs your child's. And how do the align with what is important to you and your values.
Make sure our "stuff" as a parent is not being forced on our kids.
So she loves the sport and really identifies as a gymnast. You seem to be unhappy with her progress. Why? Why are you happy she is in gym? What are your pro and con lists? Then what are you daughters? Then does gymnastics as a sport meets that? And then does the gym? And you don't actually owe anyone here an answer. If gymnastics is still her path but the gym maybe not, change it. Perhaps she needs to try other things to decide if gymnastics is her path, do that. And you also need to make sure her coaches philosophy align with yours and your daughters.
I also get a sense that the coach is not on the same page as you, but before you can address that you need to think about your pros and cons and your daughters. Perhaps a gym change.
There is a kid in our gym. Doesn't place well and one parent wonders why bother. She loves it. Doesn't care how she places. Loves learning new skills, the girls, the team. So despite the one parent thinking its a waste, she stays.
My kid her path is slower. Her coaches would like her path to be quicker. But that would drive her out of the sport. It wouldn't work for us or my daughter. Slower it is. We are fortunate that these coaches don't force more.