Well, now that you mention it...
Having just finished my boy's first season here, I've been hesitant to jump to any unflattering conclusions about our coaches. To be fair, they're all wonderful people to chat with, and they all say the right things at the right times (to the parents).
Unfortunately, I've observed certain behaviors that seem questionable to me, and lately I've been hearing the same thing from other parents. The part that's on topic here is that some
play favorites. Most disturbing is our highest-ranking coach. It seems like a kid is either on his good side or on his bad side. If on his good side, life is wonderful at the gym. Lots of time and attention, good tips, plenty of TLC. If on his bad side, you might as well sit on the sidelines.
I sort of understand part of it, although I still don't condone the coach's behavior. Sadly, there are a few disciplinary problems, especially amongst the younger boys. They have a tendency to disrupt the class and make it difficult for the others to concentrate on their workout. I can see where this can create a little bias on the part of the coach, but there are other perfectly well-behaved kids who simply haven't won the favor of the man in charge. Maybe it's just a personality preference, hair color, or their basic ability to perform. Whatever the reason, certain kids are consistently getting more and better instruction than others.
I think the reason the buzz over this issue has increased in recent weeks is because the time for deciding who moves up a level and who doesn't is almost here, and the coach is already indicating his probable choices. And guess what -- it looks like the favorites will be moving up, while the ones who received so little attention all season will be left behind. What's wrong with this picture?
Thankfully, my boy has not been affected by this particular situation (yet), but we don't really know who his coach will be in a few weeks, once the level shuffling takes place.
So, yeah -- I think favoritism exists, and I believe coaches should be above such things. They're the adults, right?
p.s. This is the first time I sorta hope a certain coach is not reading the Chalk Board.