My hesitation is that I would not want anyone getting close enough to an athlete or any child and being covert, even for a good reason. If someone is close enough to clip on a pin without someone knowing then they are close enough to steal or put something in a water bottle. I know it’s innocent...
I love what you’re saying. Your son wants to be treated with respect and he deserves that. I’m not sure a coach would take it well, it might get the response of “ don’t tell me how to coach”.
There are coaches on this board who coach very much like your wording. Unfortunately, that has not...
It also depends on genetics, certain body types are more prone to visible abdominal muscles than others. It’s much more important to focus on what your body can do rather than how it looks.
I feel like we’ve been watching both of your kids since they were babies. Sarah Shire’s mom was on the old gym spot forum and now she’s married, a head coach of the women’s team at Penn State and she has two kids. I feel so old!