DND
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- Jan 4, 2010
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Update and seeking advice now...(sorry if this gets long winded)
Took DD to gym yesterday and going in she was okay as we had discussed the competing lower or staying where she is. I was right an she does not want to move just to compete and she was okay with just going to practice. She admitted she was a little scared as the whole shaken confidence and them believing in her was still bugging her a little.
When we arrived the other head coach (husband - the head coaches are married) asked her how she was feeling and she said fine. He made a comment to her that he thought yesterday she was only coughing during bars and beam not floor and vault. She said really; shrugged her shoulders and went into the gym. He said to me that beam and bars are her weak events and maybe that has to do with the cough. He went on briefly about her intelligence and playing little games while making sure I knew she still worked hard. I think he was politely trying to say it is psychosomatic and it would be those two events that held her back from competing.
I told him I already knew that as DD had told me the night before about the other head coach telling her....
I filled him in on how hurt and crying she was and what advice I had given her. He did not know that was said to her and mentioned that maybe she (other coach) was doing it to see if it would push her. There was a bit more talk and then he also said he was not giving up and that we would have to wait and see.
I then mentioned the leo issue and he seemed surprised that she was not fitted and then said well we know her size...the smallest one.
I had to get back to work so as long as the above seems it was really all a two minute conversation at best. I had appointments so I was unable to get back to the gym early watch DD and see how she made out (sometimes I can read thing from her body language that tells me more than she does) or talk to the coaches about how DD was feeling.
I asked DD how practice was and she said good/bad; she said she was scared again on beam. I wonder if this goes to the whole believing in herself and the coach believing in her as the beam coach is the same coach who told her she felt she would not be ready to compete. I told her what the "other coach" had said and more so about not giving up on her; her answer was why doesn't he say that to me.
SO now for advice - should I be relaying this back to the coaches? I don't want to seem like I am telling them how to deal with DD so to speak. The relationship they have with DD is different and I imagine they try and go through various stages learning and trusting each other along the way. I has been mentioned that they have a hard time reading DD as she is very quiet and she never gets mad or upset ...she will just do what you tell her without complaining.
What to do next????
Took DD to gym yesterday and going in she was okay as we had discussed the competing lower or staying where she is. I was right an she does not want to move just to compete and she was okay with just going to practice. She admitted she was a little scared as the whole shaken confidence and them believing in her was still bugging her a little.
When we arrived the other head coach (husband - the head coaches are married) asked her how she was feeling and she said fine. He made a comment to her that he thought yesterday she was only coughing during bars and beam not floor and vault. She said really; shrugged her shoulders and went into the gym. He said to me that beam and bars are her weak events and maybe that has to do with the cough. He went on briefly about her intelligence and playing little games while making sure I knew she still worked hard. I think he was politely trying to say it is psychosomatic and it would be those two events that held her back from competing.
I told him I already knew that as DD had told me the night before about the other head coach telling her....
I filled him in on how hurt and crying she was and what advice I had given her. He did not know that was said to her and mentioned that maybe she (other coach) was doing it to see if it would push her. There was a bit more talk and then he also said he was not giving up and that we would have to wait and see.
I then mentioned the leo issue and he seemed surprised that she was not fitted and then said well we know her size...the smallest one.
I had to get back to work so as long as the above seems it was really all a two minute conversation at best. I had appointments so I was unable to get back to the gym early watch DD and see how she made out (sometimes I can read thing from her body language that tells me more than she does) or talk to the coaches about how DD was feeling.
I asked DD how practice was and she said good/bad; she said she was scared again on beam. I wonder if this goes to the whole believing in herself and the coach believing in her as the beam coach is the same coach who told her she felt she would not be ready to compete. I told her what the "other coach" had said and more so about not giving up on her; her answer was why doesn't he say that to me.
SO now for advice - should I be relaying this back to the coaches? I don't want to seem like I am telling them how to deal with DD so to speak. The relationship they have with DD is different and I imagine they try and go through various stages learning and trusting each other along the way. I has been mentioned that they have a hard time reading DD as she is very quiet and she never gets mad or upset ...she will just do what you tell her without complaining.
What to do next????