- Dec 30, 2010
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Hi all,
I'm a relatively new gym mum in the UK, my daughter is 10 and has been doing 8 hours, training four pieces but competing mainly floor and vault for coming up to a year now. My girl is focussed and hardworking, but a few issues are cropping up. I hate to see her unhappy and can't answer her questions, I want to make an appointment to speak with the coach but don;t know if I would be labelled as a pushy timewaster!
P started competing at novice level this year and quickly moved up to intermediate, and has been in the medals at every competition since. She has been told by her group coach that she is moving to advanced shortly. The other two girls who have been given the same news, both a year older and both have been squad gymnasts for at least a year longer than P, are training with the advanced group and have been for several months, while still competing intermediate. P is still training with the intermediate group, a very small group of 8 year olds. She can't understand why she has been left behind, and is frustrated watching the other two girls working more advanced skills - her POV is that she will be competing with them, same level, same age group, next year but they are having opportunities that she is not. When the other two girls started training with the advanced group, the only comment we had was that P is 'so good with the littler ones' - is that a good enough reason to keep her with this group? Her strength and flexibility are not an issue for the skills she is doing.
She has not been told what she needs to achieve skillswise, but knows from watching the next level in competition that she needs a minimum of a consistent handspring, ROBHS, and handspring vault. The intermediate group coach will not spot a BHS or handspring vault - says that she doesn't know how. P's floor handspring is fine, just requires more consistency but no support, and her flatback over the vault is fine and scored well in competition (they go over the vault table onto a mat pile of the same height). She feels frustrated that she is in a group where the coach is not able to help her achieve the skills she needs - again, more frustration as she watches the advanced group working with a coach who can spot these skills and more.
The inter coach does things that seem to me, as a non coach, a bit nonsensical. One example - P is working on cartwheel on beam. On a line on the floor, no problem, but on the floor beam she consistently doesn't get her second foot down - I think it's been going on so long it's now a confidence issue. She will be sent to do 10 on the floor beam and lands maybe 1-2. The coach does not offer any advice or help - even when asked, she just tells P to 'go practice it'. But she does insist at the end of the 10 on floor beam, P does 5 on the high beam. No spot, no help - and at yesterdays count she had 19 bruises on her legs. I can't understand the insistence on taking a skill that is not improving on the floor beam onto the high beam, and the constant lack of interest in helping. I know that minor bumps and scrapes are to be expected, but I do not feel confident that my child is in safe and protective hands.
P does not dislike the inter coach - her perception (at age 10) is that the coach is a nice person who is just not interested in being her coach. The coach sought me out at the end of Saturday training this week - she has been P's coach for about 8 months and this is the first conversation we have had. It was because she is interested in having me make uniforms for her cheerleader team... At the tumble competition on Sunday (P's first tumble event), P was sitting on the bench waiting for her turn - the coach was sitting with her back to P - not even watching the competition, just staring into space, looking out of the window, in a dream world. Apart from telling P where she should be, she didn't communicate with her at all.
I am finding the lack of communication from the gym really frustrating. I don't want to be 'one of those mums', but I think as a new squad member, in a year I should have had some feedback really - does she seem happy and settled in the gym? Is she progressing as they expected? Or not? Is there a plan for her? Is this lack of information the norm for gym clubs??
Am I fussing about nothing? Should I pipe down? These concerns come from a conversation I had with P a couple of nights ago - I asked her if she was OK and it all came flooding out!
Thanks for reading my essay!
I'm a relatively new gym mum in the UK, my daughter is 10 and has been doing 8 hours, training four pieces but competing mainly floor and vault for coming up to a year now. My girl is focussed and hardworking, but a few issues are cropping up. I hate to see her unhappy and can't answer her questions, I want to make an appointment to speak with the coach but don;t know if I would be labelled as a pushy timewaster!
P started competing at novice level this year and quickly moved up to intermediate, and has been in the medals at every competition since. She has been told by her group coach that she is moving to advanced shortly. The other two girls who have been given the same news, both a year older and both have been squad gymnasts for at least a year longer than P, are training with the advanced group and have been for several months, while still competing intermediate. P is still training with the intermediate group, a very small group of 8 year olds. She can't understand why she has been left behind, and is frustrated watching the other two girls working more advanced skills - her POV is that she will be competing with them, same level, same age group, next year but they are having opportunities that she is not. When the other two girls started training with the advanced group, the only comment we had was that P is 'so good with the littler ones' - is that a good enough reason to keep her with this group? Her strength and flexibility are not an issue for the skills she is doing.
She has not been told what she needs to achieve skillswise, but knows from watching the next level in competition that she needs a minimum of a consistent handspring, ROBHS, and handspring vault. The intermediate group coach will not spot a BHS or handspring vault - says that she doesn't know how. P's floor handspring is fine, just requires more consistency but no support, and her flatback over the vault is fine and scored well in competition (they go over the vault table onto a mat pile of the same height). She feels frustrated that she is in a group where the coach is not able to help her achieve the skills she needs - again, more frustration as she watches the advanced group working with a coach who can spot these skills and more.
The inter coach does things that seem to me, as a non coach, a bit nonsensical. One example - P is working on cartwheel on beam. On a line on the floor, no problem, but on the floor beam she consistently doesn't get her second foot down - I think it's been going on so long it's now a confidence issue. She will be sent to do 10 on the floor beam and lands maybe 1-2. The coach does not offer any advice or help - even when asked, she just tells P to 'go practice it'. But she does insist at the end of the 10 on floor beam, P does 5 on the high beam. No spot, no help - and at yesterdays count she had 19 bruises on her legs. I can't understand the insistence on taking a skill that is not improving on the floor beam onto the high beam, and the constant lack of interest in helping. I know that minor bumps and scrapes are to be expected, but I do not feel confident that my child is in safe and protective hands.
P does not dislike the inter coach - her perception (at age 10) is that the coach is a nice person who is just not interested in being her coach. The coach sought me out at the end of Saturday training this week - she has been P's coach for about 8 months and this is the first conversation we have had. It was because she is interested in having me make uniforms for her cheerleader team... At the tumble competition on Sunday (P's first tumble event), P was sitting on the bench waiting for her turn - the coach was sitting with her back to P - not even watching the competition, just staring into space, looking out of the window, in a dream world. Apart from telling P where she should be, she didn't communicate with her at all.
I am finding the lack of communication from the gym really frustrating. I don't want to be 'one of those mums', but I think as a new squad member, in a year I should have had some feedback really - does she seem happy and settled in the gym? Is she progressing as they expected? Or not? Is there a plan for her? Is this lack of information the norm for gym clubs??
Am I fussing about nothing? Should I pipe down? These concerns come from a conversation I had with P a couple of nights ago - I asked her if she was OK and it all came flooding out!
Thanks for reading my essay!