But no parent wants to hear/imagine/come to
grips with the fact that their special snowflake might not, indeed, BE that special and a superstar..!
Don't get me wrong, any kid that goes into that gym every day knowing that today is going to be another hard practice, puts in the effort plus blood, sweat and tears IS a superstar in my book!!
But, as has been said, some just have more potential than others. Some work harder than others. Some stall out (temporarily or more permanently) because of growth or fear or other issues.
It's natural that the training groups will fluctuate throughout the years. It's natural that some kids will move fast/slow at different times in their training. It takes good coaches to see where kids will have the most success even if that's not what the parents wants.
I'm on both sides of this as a coach and as a parent, but I have to trust that the coaches have every kids best interest at heart.
For the record, my kid is NOT in any special group, never has been, probably never will be. That's ok, she's getting great training and she keeps on truckin' because none of this has ever come easy to her. She gets the same attention as the girls that have had an easier time because she keeps working hard and going for it. when girls (mine or others) are proving themselves to not be particularly coachable one day, the coaches do step away rather than persist, which I'm sure if you are a parent looking for injustice would appear as if the coach isn't paying attention to your kid, doesn't like your kid, whatever. In reality, if a gymnast isn't inclined to even try to make corrections, it's better to take a breather and not move any further that practice and start fresh the next day. But again, very few parents want to hear that little Suzie just wasn't putting any effort in (today, this week, this month, this year).... Easier to blame the coaches for slowing down and not progressing as fast.
