Ok I did not mean any of the original post in a negative way! My husband never did gymnastics or any sport really. He travels a lot for work and works late enough so it's always me who brings her to practice. We also have two other children, one age 5, and are just generally up to our ears in stress with everyday life (two of my three kids are adhd/asd, we have financial problems, etc).
It's just generally implicit between us that gym is in that group of "wife jobs"(i.e., buying presents, taking kids to doctors, knowing what medications they take and when, planning birthday parties, folding laundry, etc etc). I gladly trade these off for the various "man jobs" he is usually in charge of (taking out the garbage/recycling, opening and dealing with the mail, fixing things, tech support for kids and family, tickling the kids at bedtime until they nearly puke, etc). He "volunteers" at the gym, pays the bills, and goes to the occasional meet. The wiggly 5 year old makes going as a whole family unpleasant, so he stays home and watches my video clips after. I am totally ok with all of this.