Well you are right that everyone's situation will be different. But here's a question for you that I would ask any of our parents who didn't want their daughter to attend a meet if they couldn't go - Would you send your daughter to summer camp? If the answer would be NO from a parent, then I could understand them not wanting to do any away activities if they couldn't go as well. If the answer is YES, then my next question would be "who do you think watches them at a summer camp? Most likely a 16 year old counselor", so if a parent would be ok with that I would wonder why they wouldn't be okay with their coaches supervising them during an overnite meet.