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[Pbo6]

Hello all
So if anyone read b4 my 9yr old (4 yes into gymnastics) on Xcel Gold and state champ and made here way to Regionals decided to walk away from gymnastics due to situations with the coaches and her gym. But this post is for a few questions I have about other things:
Should we pay her dues with usag to keep her current in case she changes her mind later? And there is a coach at another gym calling telling us we should atleast let her do score outs during the summer so she could possibly move up to level 6, if she returns( this is if we change gyms). Please offer advice, past experiences . Ty

 

[Coach Kate]

Honestly if she wants a break, I wouldn't worry about dues or score outs or anything like that. You can pay at any time before a first meet with USAG and score outs often happen throughout the fall. Sometimes they're even done mid season, although it's more unusual. Before gold was entry level, we had someone who scored out of silver and gold in the same weekend so she could compete platinum the next month.

 

[raenndrops]

You still have time to decide if you will keep her USAG membership active. The current one is good through July 31.
If she wants to try out the other gym for a bit and score out, she could do that before August 1 on her current membership.
Either way, if she decides it isn't for her, you could let her membership lapse and reactivate it if she decides to go back later.
Good luck.

 

[Pbo6]

So don't need that yearly membership by July? As for scoreout, doesn't seem to be many around us, but again this is all, *IF* she even decides to return. Ty for thoughts Coach Kate

 

[ORgymmom]

You can get a new USAG membership for next year at any time after July 31 when/if you join a new gym. It’s more important for insurance purposes and not having it won’t negate her previous results or anything like that. There are countries where you have to have national membership to retain access to the system, but in the U.S. most gyms won’t make you get it until they’re registering you for meets and need the number to input into forms.

 

[GymDadWA]

She sounded ready to walk away, it's OK to leave the sport.

Scoring out requires learning new routines and skills, if she doesn't know these already then it might take all summer. Are you hoping she does the score out at the other gym and then will want to stay at that other gym and keep going?

 

[Pbo6]

She sounded ready to walk away, it's OK to leave the sport.

Scoring out requires learning new routines and skills, if she doesn't know these already then it might take all summer. Are you hoping she does the score out at the other gym and then will want to stay at that other gym and keep going?

To be honest I don't want her to walk away. I know all parents think their kids are the greatest but she is really good at it and I'd like to see her stick to it. She has grown tremendously in the sport has done some great things, I feel it was the coaches at last gym that destroyed her love of the sport. But I also understand I must give her space and time

 

[NutterButter]

Before my DD decided on gymnastics as her main activity she took flute lessons. She was a natural with a nice tone and a quick learner but she hated it. She quit at the end of the school year with my encouragement and support. I'd rather she pursue something she is passionate about than do an activity just because she is talented.

I would honor her desire to quit and take her lead in finding other activities. Maybe she will end up going back to gymnastics or maybe not...needs to be her decision. The score out is not a reason to force her to do gym meaning it won't hold her back if she doesn't do it this summer. Many gyms compete L5 or L6 (but not both) so there are options for moving her forward that don't involve scoring out over the summer. I'd also be skeptical of any gym 'recruiting' her to do so this summer.

 

[Pbo6]

Oh I'm not forcing anything, like i said space. I was looking to see what opinions were there on keeping membership current and about scoreouts. I will say, as per regs if not scored out of L5, no L6. But if doesn't go back that's fine as well, I'm not making her, I'm just not wanting the door closed if she says oh dad I'd like to go back

 

[TumbleTwist]

Oh I'm not forcing anything, like i said space. I was looking to see what opinions were there on keeping membership current and about scoreouts. I will say, as per regs if not scored out of L5, no L6. But if doesn't go back that's fine as well, I'm not making her, I'm just not wanting the door closed if she says oh dad I'd like to go back

Let her quit. If she decides to eventually go back, then you can deal with the score-outs then. Now is not the time to worry about that. Support her decision and let her move on.

 

[Pbo6]

Again, she has already quit. Been gone for over a month. Passed on regionals. My post is about keeping memberships paid, and seeing if going to a score out so IF she goes back she is good to go and not starting over. But I will make a statement many wont like: i see so many ppl quickly say: let them quit, does anyone support the idea of push their kid a little, hold them to a comment they made to a team? Or maybe compete or competition will make them stronger and build character? Just curious? And yes I am a older dad of a much younger daughter b4 anyone asks.

 

[NutterButter]

But I will make a statement many wont like: i see so many ppl quickly say: let them quit, does anyone support the idea of push their kid a little, hold them to a comment they made to a team? Or maybe compete or competition will make them stronger and build character? Just curious? And yes I am a older dad of a much younger daughter b4 anyone asks.

Of course, but don't you want your kid to ENJOY or have PASSION for what they are doing? Sounds like those are missing with yours right now with gymnastics. Honoring a commitment is one thing (such as finishing out the season vs quitting in the middle of season). Gymnastics is just one of many, many ways a kid can build strength and character. Find an outlet for her that she actually enjoys.

Also, we are talking Xcel Gold here which is the beginning of a gymnastics journey. Success in the early levels is not an indicator of long term success in this sport.

 

[NutterButter]

To answer your question though - it doesn't matter if she scores out now. Maintaining USAG membership doesn't matter either.

 

[Pbo6]

And I do agree, entry but she had passion until this set of coaches completely destroyed that passion, is what I'm saying. Plus how can you say that success won't follow into levels 6 thru 10 unless U try, all I'm saying. I'm not saying she isn't trying whatever else she wants, but yes we all know, gymnastics takes all a girls time; Which is why so many decide to leave. I am supporting whatever she ultimately decides, I just want to be prepared either way.

 

[NutterButter]

You've received consistent answers from people here who have lots of experience as a gymnast, coach or parent. Maybe it's not what you want to hear and that's OK. You can take the advice or leave it.

A lot of kids have had quite atrocious coaching and it doesn't kill passion...the fact that it has in your child suggests that she either needs more time before going back and/or it's not the right sport for her.

Either way, she doesn't need to score out now or maintain USAG membership.

Also - I wasn't trying to diminish her success in Gold in my other response. I can see where that came off as snarky and it wasn't my intent at all. Just that she's still at the beginning of a gymnastics journey and most kids don't make it past L8, let alone L10 and success at early levels is no indicator of longevity or success in upper levels.

 

[TumbleTwist]

Not trying to sound rude, but it sounds like this is more about what you want for her than what she wants.

 

[Pbo6]

I am reading all so I do apologize if I came off rude. Yes does sound as if for me and not her as well doesn't it. In away I do wanna push her a bit harder just way I am. But I see the advice given and lf she doesn't ask to return for any score out or anymore gymnastics then off to her next adventure. With my full support

 

[TumbleTwist]

I am reading all so I do apologize if I came off rude. Yes does sound as if for me and not her as well doesn't it. In away I do wanna push her a bit harder just way I am. But I see the advice given and lf she doesn't ask to return for any score out or anymore gymnastics then off to her next adventure. With my full support

And she may very well decide to eventually go back. But you want her to make that decision for herself, not because of you pushing her. And if she does, you can easily renew her membership, and do the score out meets.

 

[Carly]

I would not worry about score outs or membership. She does not have to do a specific meet over the summer that is hosted mainly for score outs. She could do it during the regular season if she decides to come back. And from what I can remember, you can basically renew her membership pretty much instantly online.

I do agree about finishing out a commitment. My kid wanted to quit in the middle of the season and we reminded her of her commitment and she finished out her JO season. She ultimately switched to a very low hours, flexible Xcel program and continued until hs graduation. I was bummed that she wanted to quit because she was very good, had a goal for college and most likely could have made a D3 team. She definitely would have quit if she didn't find this program which I still can't believe existed near us. Now that she is doing college cheer as a flyer/tumbler and we went to the competitions in florida, a little part of me wishes that she actually quit gymnastics back then and did a team sport. It was just such an amazing experience celebrating their accomplishments as a team at nationals and their conference competition.

There are so many other sports out there that she might enjoy more or maybe she will miss gymnastics and ask to go back. I would let her lead but maybe offer some other options for her to try over the summer.

 

[Dahlialover]

the USAG membership will need to be paid if and when she decides to register for a meet. There is no reason to renew before you need it.

As for forcing her to continue through the summer in order to score out to level 6 l, I would not do that. Gymnastics is too hard and too dangerous to force on an unwilling child. It’s not like piano lessons! But you could make an agreement to delay making a final decision until after she has had a 6 week break. But don’t pressure her, it should be her decision.