- Jan 9, 2011
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You all were so helpful when we were deciding whether to move my DD to a new gym last December. DD just turned 8 and just officially move on up to L4 for the summer. Things are going ... ok.
There's been a lot of unexpected gym drama since the move. Our gym has two campuses and DD was DEFINITELY at the 'not so good' gym. See... one is traditionally the "boys gym" and the other is more the "girls gym". DD was at the "boys gym". While I knew going into this that there was some disparity (DD's coach was seemingly fairly forthcoming about it), I still chose to place her with the "warm" coach at the "lesser gym" vs. the more "driven" group of coaches after all that DD experienced at her former gym. DD was with a smaller group of 5 total girls and coach was a real sweetheart.
Upon "joining" the gym, we were informed that DD would be staying at the "notsogood campus" for at least another 18 months. Maybe surprisingly, this was much preferred by me, as it is 20 minutes closer to home. Might not seem like a huge deal, but when we were already driving 40 min each way... well, you get my drift. Well, DD's coach is pregnant and due right before comp season, so plans have changed and DD's switch to the other gym starts ... now! Come to find out, DD's coach knew she was expecting when we chose their gym, but as she was only 5 weeks along, she wasn't ready to share that tidbit. I really wish we would have known, because there was one more reasonable gym for us to check out that we hadn't yet. Anyway, you know what they say about hindsight.
Unfortunately, the disparity in coaching between the two campuses was REALLY downplayed. I mean, girls from DD's campus scored 32's to 34's at the one meet DD participated in this spring, and the "other campus" girls were scoring in the 37s to 39s. That was a bit disheartening, but again, I am not tremendously score-driven, and DD enjoyed just the experience (didn't care where she placed), so all was ... ok.
Well, the girls from both campuses are all together now in one group. The "other campus" kids all do TOPs in addition to their regular classes (wasn't an option at the "DD's campus"). DD is now a bit discouraged (actually, that's an understatement), as the other girls are a bit ahead (quite a few have ro-bhs-bhs-bt, among other skills) and I have to admit that I got a tiny bit frustrated just in the few minutes I watched them. DD's group is much further behind, and it seems the "better campus" coaches really like their girls, if you know what I mean? Now, I am not a "watcher" by design, I run from the drama, but DD was nervous for the first few practices at the "new gym" so I watched about a half an hour or so the first few days. Some of the other moms from DD's group have stayed and oh-so-kindly informed me of what they saw.
They aren't happy and there's a load of drama there. I try to ignore it - it is what it is and nothing's going to be perfect, but once in awhile it wears on me. I can only hear them complain about the coaching so many times before I want to tell them where to go (another gym, perhaps?). My complaining isn't going to change matters, and I'd rather stay positive for my DD.
And here I have a bill for $1500 worth of leos/warm-ups/fall comp fees that I need to pay, and there's just that tiny part of me that wants to hesitate. I really do not want to move gyms again, DD likes it there. THAT is what is important, so I guess that's just a mini-rant there due to my own uncertainty. I just sorta feel a little bit duped, I guess.
Anyhow - DD is doing much better on beam, and is really gaining some confidence back. She's nearly got her handstand back which is HUGE. She's still struggling on her darned mil circle (has the shoot thru part) and that darned BHS. She won't even attempt it without a spot yet. Otherwise, she's got the rest of her L4 skills (and knows the routines) and she has 10.5 hours of gym time per week this summer to get ready.
She likes all of the coaches but one - and even that was she thinks is ok - just "really picky". I tried to explain that was a good thing, but hey - she's 8 and doesn't really get that yet.
So, all in all DD is much happier, if not a little bit jealous of the "other girls". She's looking forward to competing L4 in the fall. The drive leaves a bit to be desired for me, but I suppose that could be worse. DD hasn't complained a single time about going to gym since the move. DD loves her sport again. That alone has been worth it.
I can only hope that the "new girls" assimilate well and are treated equally relatively soon!
There's been a lot of unexpected gym drama since the move. Our gym has two campuses and DD was DEFINITELY at the 'not so good' gym. See... one is traditionally the "boys gym" and the other is more the "girls gym". DD was at the "boys gym". While I knew going into this that there was some disparity (DD's coach was seemingly fairly forthcoming about it), I still chose to place her with the "warm" coach at the "lesser gym" vs. the more "driven" group of coaches after all that DD experienced at her former gym. DD was with a smaller group of 5 total girls and coach was a real sweetheart.
Upon "joining" the gym, we were informed that DD would be staying at the "notsogood campus" for at least another 18 months. Maybe surprisingly, this was much preferred by me, as it is 20 minutes closer to home. Might not seem like a huge deal, but when we were already driving 40 min each way... well, you get my drift. Well, DD's coach is pregnant and due right before comp season, so plans have changed and DD's switch to the other gym starts ... now! Come to find out, DD's coach knew she was expecting when we chose their gym, but as she was only 5 weeks along, she wasn't ready to share that tidbit. I really wish we would have known, because there was one more reasonable gym for us to check out that we hadn't yet. Anyway, you know what they say about hindsight.
Unfortunately, the disparity in coaching between the two campuses was REALLY downplayed. I mean, girls from DD's campus scored 32's to 34's at the one meet DD participated in this spring, and the "other campus" girls were scoring in the 37s to 39s. That was a bit disheartening, but again, I am not tremendously score-driven, and DD enjoyed just the experience (didn't care where she placed), so all was ... ok.
Well, the girls from both campuses are all together now in one group. The "other campus" kids all do TOPs in addition to their regular classes (wasn't an option at the "DD's campus"). DD is now a bit discouraged (actually, that's an understatement), as the other girls are a bit ahead (quite a few have ro-bhs-bhs-bt, among other skills) and I have to admit that I got a tiny bit frustrated just in the few minutes I watched them. DD's group is much further behind, and it seems the "better campus" coaches really like their girls, if you know what I mean? Now, I am not a "watcher" by design, I run from the drama, but DD was nervous for the first few practices at the "new gym" so I watched about a half an hour or so the first few days. Some of the other moms from DD's group have stayed and oh-so-kindly informed me of what they saw.
They aren't happy and there's a load of drama there. I try to ignore it - it is what it is and nothing's going to be perfect, but once in awhile it wears on me. I can only hear them complain about the coaching so many times before I want to tell them where to go (another gym, perhaps?). My complaining isn't going to change matters, and I'd rather stay positive for my DD.
And here I have a bill for $1500 worth of leos/warm-ups/fall comp fees that I need to pay, and there's just that tiny part of me that wants to hesitate. I really do not want to move gyms again, DD likes it there. THAT is what is important, so I guess that's just a mini-rant there due to my own uncertainty. I just sorta feel a little bit duped, I guess.
Anyhow - DD is doing much better on beam, and is really gaining some confidence back. She's nearly got her handstand back which is HUGE. She's still struggling on her darned mil circle (has the shoot thru part) and that darned BHS. She won't even attempt it without a spot yet. Otherwise, she's got the rest of her L4 skills (and knows the routines) and she has 10.5 hours of gym time per week this summer to get ready.
She likes all of the coaches but one - and even that was she thinks is ok - just "really picky". I tried to explain that was a good thing, but hey - she's 8 and doesn't really get that yet.
So, all in all DD is much happier, if not a little bit jealous of the "other girls". She's looking forward to competing L4 in the fall. The drive leaves a bit to be desired for me, but I suppose that could be worse. DD hasn't complained a single time about going to gym since the move. DD loves her sport again. That alone has been worth it.
I can only hope that the "new girls" assimilate well and are treated equally relatively soon!
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