My DD is competing her second year of Level 7 this year. Her coach has asked her to go to level 8 twice, but she made the decision to stay in 7. She wanted to have a year where she did well in meets and got good scores.
The problem we are having this year, is that DD is putting so much pressure on herself for high scores. We try to teach DD that it is not about the scores or medals. But it doesnt seem to be working. For instance, Yesterday:
Yesterday we had our 3rd meet of the season She scored her first ever 9! YIPPEE! 9.025 on Floor and placed 8th. That is fantastic! She will thrilled but that excitement didnt last
Vault was fine. She always struggles on vault. She got a 8.25, this is a .2 increase from last week. A postive. Then she went to bars. she didnt get credit for her cast being 45Degrees above horizontal from one judge. So her start value was a 9.5. You could tell that she was disappointed.
Finally on to Beam - typically her best event. She had struggled with back handsprings for weeks. She stuck her BHS it was so in our mind it should be a sucessful meet. Then she fell on her roundoff. Bobbled on her full turn and took a step on her dismount. She saluted the judges, walked over to her team and started crying.
Over and over we tell her it is not about the scores or medals. It is about doing your best and having a good time. But it seems we leave most meets with crying.
I am not sure how to handle this. I know part of the problem is that she is 12 and learning how to handle new emotions.
DD wants to go to State this year as a 7. She made it to state last year. But the qualifing score was changed from a 33 to a 35 this year. DD might not do it Her highest AA is a high 33. We explained that had she not fallen and had she gotten credit for her Cast she would have had a mid 34. And she has 6 meets left before state! She had pleanty of time. each week she is working hard in the gym and making the right adjustments. And we have to take the little sucesses. a 9 on Floor! A 8th place finish! A BHS without a 20 second pause before it?
How do I explain that to her? How do I stop the tears? It breaks me up inside, I would rather she not do the sport than be so hard on herself!
The problem we are having this year, is that DD is putting so much pressure on herself for high scores. We try to teach DD that it is not about the scores or medals. But it doesnt seem to be working. For instance, Yesterday:
Yesterday we had our 3rd meet of the season She scored her first ever 9! YIPPEE! 9.025 on Floor and placed 8th. That is fantastic! She will thrilled but that excitement didnt last
Vault was fine. She always struggles on vault. She got a 8.25, this is a .2 increase from last week. A postive. Then she went to bars. she didnt get credit for her cast being 45Degrees above horizontal from one judge. So her start value was a 9.5. You could tell that she was disappointed.
Finally on to Beam - typically her best event. She had struggled with back handsprings for weeks. She stuck her BHS it was so in our mind it should be a sucessful meet. Then she fell on her roundoff. Bobbled on her full turn and took a step on her dismount. She saluted the judges, walked over to her team and started crying.
Over and over we tell her it is not about the scores or medals. It is about doing your best and having a good time. But it seems we leave most meets with crying.
I am not sure how to handle this. I know part of the problem is that she is 12 and learning how to handle new emotions.
DD wants to go to State this year as a 7. She made it to state last year. But the qualifing score was changed from a 33 to a 35 this year. DD might not do it Her highest AA is a high 33. We explained that had she not fallen and had she gotten credit for her Cast she would have had a mid 34. And she has 6 meets left before state! She had pleanty of time. each week she is working hard in the gym and making the right adjustments. And we have to take the little sucesses. a 9 on Floor! A 8th place finish! A BHS without a 20 second pause before it?
How do I explain that to her? How do I stop the tears? It breaks me up inside, I would rather she not do the sport than be so hard on herself!