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BlairBob
So, here's my problem. One boy, a 10yo, who just finished his first year as a L4 and has been in the gym less than a year; is a complete pain probably 30-70% of the time. I can never tell. It's been very emotionally draining the past 3 months and I'm pretty sure the other two team boys find it as the former coach did and I know other parents are besides other coaches in the gym and some of the girl gymnasts.
There is only 3 boys on team, 2 10yo and 1 hyper squirrely 8yo. I have 5 other boys who work out with this group but they are considered "advanced rec". I'd call them L2s and L3s as I'd like to invite them to team perhaps before summer but there is still the logistics. 2 are 6, 1 is 7 to 8 and has a 10yo brother and another is a young, squirrely 7yo. The 6yo brother of one of the 3 team boys may join as well and he is a good kid. They stay for only 2 of the 3 hours of practice and come 1-2 days a week typically instead of all 3.
Anyways, "dramatic emo 10yo" constantly complains that the other 2 teammates don't include him all the time. Sometimes they talk to each other or hang out with each other in their own time. So drama-emo 10yo makes a big huff about, stomps off, cries, throws things, the whole kaboodle.
As the team coach, should I be responsible or care if they all are friends in the gym and out? Personally, I think I need to maintain that they respect each other at a minimum but do not need to be involved in how they personally get along.
I've broken up the compulsory or optional girls who get "cliquey" and start gossipping or sassing off other girls. Mainly, because it has annoyed me when they have are too busy yapping rather than being attentive. I've been kinda irked when I have heard them yapping some incessant, somewhat mean spirited things ( such and such girl isn't this or that ) and I may have snapped at them.
Personally, I have never had to deal with this with boys before. I think the small dynamic ( 3 team boys ) is what is to blame as the prior boys teams I have worked with have been at least 5-8. More of a BIG group dynamic.
This kid obviously was in the program before I came on and was grandfathered on. I have been considering asking the parent if they really want to keep coming with this. Drama-Emo boy has complained that in prior sports all his teammates were friends and hunky-dorey.
One of the 10yo is kind of a snide little guy. He is a little trickster and sneakster, especially to his younger brother and of course the other 10yo ( who happens to be gentle and gullible ). He loves playing tricks on the the 15yo teamgirl who babysits him. As well the other 8yo will just follow the other 10yo who is the senior member of team ( been on team 3-4 years, 2 competing? ) As well, he isn't super buddy buddy nice nice to the other 10yo and I think he just is sick of his BS, but I also think he just sees it as a weakness to exploit ( boys imo are like that once they start hitting 10-13 ).
Honestly, I would never have invited said Drama-Emo boy to team but I think he was invited to keep numbers up before I got on. I never invite problem parents or kids.
While I was never a gymnast, I was on many different sports team and I can honestly say I wasn't buddy buddy with all of them. I may have a had a few friends with the others being acquainted. Eh. I know for a fact I rumbled with a few of them as well, especially in HS.
Any suggestions?
My dad thinks this boy is a bit screwed up and it is my responsibility to get him to get his **** together so he doesn't become a complete screwup in life. I'm at wit's end and dunno what to say or do. The days he hasn't come to practice have been godsends.
There is only 3 boys on team, 2 10yo and 1 hyper squirrely 8yo. I have 5 other boys who work out with this group but they are considered "advanced rec". I'd call them L2s and L3s as I'd like to invite them to team perhaps before summer but there is still the logistics. 2 are 6, 1 is 7 to 8 and has a 10yo brother and another is a young, squirrely 7yo. The 6yo brother of one of the 3 team boys may join as well and he is a good kid. They stay for only 2 of the 3 hours of practice and come 1-2 days a week typically instead of all 3.
Anyways, "dramatic emo 10yo" constantly complains that the other 2 teammates don't include him all the time. Sometimes they talk to each other or hang out with each other in their own time. So drama-emo 10yo makes a big huff about, stomps off, cries, throws things, the whole kaboodle.
As the team coach, should I be responsible or care if they all are friends in the gym and out? Personally, I think I need to maintain that they respect each other at a minimum but do not need to be involved in how they personally get along.
I've broken up the compulsory or optional girls who get "cliquey" and start gossipping or sassing off other girls. Mainly, because it has annoyed me when they have are too busy yapping rather than being attentive. I've been kinda irked when I have heard them yapping some incessant, somewhat mean spirited things ( such and such girl isn't this or that ) and I may have snapped at them.
Personally, I have never had to deal with this with boys before. I think the small dynamic ( 3 team boys ) is what is to blame as the prior boys teams I have worked with have been at least 5-8. More of a BIG group dynamic.
This kid obviously was in the program before I came on and was grandfathered on. I have been considering asking the parent if they really want to keep coming with this. Drama-Emo boy has complained that in prior sports all his teammates were friends and hunky-dorey.
One of the 10yo is kind of a snide little guy. He is a little trickster and sneakster, especially to his younger brother and of course the other 10yo ( who happens to be gentle and gullible ). He loves playing tricks on the the 15yo teamgirl who babysits him. As well the other 8yo will just follow the other 10yo who is the senior member of team ( been on team 3-4 years, 2 competing? ) As well, he isn't super buddy buddy nice nice to the other 10yo and I think he just is sick of his BS, but I also think he just sees it as a weakness to exploit ( boys imo are like that once they start hitting 10-13 ).
Honestly, I would never have invited said Drama-Emo boy to team but I think he was invited to keep numbers up before I got on. I never invite problem parents or kids.
While I was never a gymnast, I was on many different sports team and I can honestly say I wasn't buddy buddy with all of them. I may have a had a few friends with the others being acquainted. Eh. I know for a fact I rumbled with a few of them as well, especially in HS.
Any suggestions?
My dad thinks this boy is a bit screwed up and it is my responsibility to get him to get his **** together so he doesn't become a complete screwup in life. I'm at wit's end and dunno what to say or do. The days he hasn't come to practice have been godsends.