- Dec 22, 2016
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I just don't know whats going on with my kid. A month ago everything was fine, she loved gym had a great level 7 season has half her level 8 skills really just in a good place. Then what seems to happen every year happened again, all of a sudden shes really upset, doesn't want to go but doesn't know WHY she doesn't want to go. Has one small thing shes a little afraid of but not a big fear, and some wrist pain but not a major injury or anything. We have talked to her coaches to address these issues and have a plan for them. It just seems to come out of the blue to me. I have reasoned with her, asked her if she wants to quit told her if she wants to quit its fine. Can't get an answer out of her either way about quitting, or continuing, or whats wrong, or even what she is feeling just a lot of "I don't know". She did admit she was afraid if she quit people would be disappointed with her because everyone loves that she does gymnastics. I explained they just loved that she was good at something that made her happy so if it didn't make her happy anymore no one would be disappointed.
I put in her one month notice at gym today and told her for the next month, she says yes she wants to go I will take her she says no I am not going to try and convince her anymore I will just say ok and go back to what I was doing. If she chooses no more than yes over the next month we are done. I said I am always happy to pay for them to do the sports they love but I can't spend money on something I have to beg her to do every practice. Its emotionally exhausting for me and for her. I told her every sport has pros and cons, every sport you sacrifice time with, everything she will have some happy memories and some regrets and that's all ok.
This would be so much easier if I could tell what she wanted. She is equally upset about going and not going and tears herself up about it. She is equally upset about continuing and quitting that I can't tell if the right thing to do is to say ok that's it I am deciding you are done, or that's it just go to practice. I feel damned if you do damned if you don't right now, I definitely have some regrets about sports I quit when it got "hard" and I don't want her to have those same regrets.
So this long post to ask any advice? Is there something I'm not seeing here?
I put in her one month notice at gym today and told her for the next month, she says yes she wants to go I will take her she says no I am not going to try and convince her anymore I will just say ok and go back to what I was doing. If she chooses no more than yes over the next month we are done. I said I am always happy to pay for them to do the sports they love but I can't spend money on something I have to beg her to do every practice. Its emotionally exhausting for me and for her. I told her every sport has pros and cons, every sport you sacrifice time with, everything she will have some happy memories and some regrets and that's all ok.
This would be so much easier if I could tell what she wanted. She is equally upset about going and not going and tears herself up about it. She is equally upset about continuing and quitting that I can't tell if the right thing to do is to say ok that's it I am deciding you are done, or that's it just go to practice. I feel damned if you do damned if you don't right now, I definitely have some regrets about sports I quit when it got "hard" and I don't want her to have those same regrets.
So this long post to ask any advice? Is there something I'm not seeing here?