Jen H.
Proud Parent
- Sep 9, 2011
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At some point I think I was starting to turn into one of "those parents", the ones that interrogate their child after gym practice. I could see that it was making my girl uncomfortable but I was just so desperate to know what was going on with her during her 16 hours a week away from home.
I don't have the luxury/burden of being able to hang out at the gym very often and the only time I really ever get to see her is during warm-ups and cool-downs, so nothing too exciting there.
She started getting pissy with me on the rides home, or when she arrived home. It finally clicked that it was me (and husband) that were likely the biggest source of her irritation.
He and I had a conversation about it, and figured out that she needed the down time on the ride home to just chill out and get back to her regular self, leave gym at the gym.
There has been such a huge difference in her attitude in the evenings!
I have to bite my tongue at times, because I really do want to know what she is working on and what she is struggling with, but it has to be a conversation led by her or she will feel defensive, or just doesn't want to talk about it.
We always have snuggle time at bed time, and have always asked each other "What do you want to talk about", and if she want to talk about gym at that time she can, if not, I am learning to mind my bidness!
I have read on here over and over again how important it is for our children to have a separation between "gym time" and "home time". SO TRUE!!!
Thank you oh wise ones!:applause:
I don't have the luxury/burden of being able to hang out at the gym very often and the only time I really ever get to see her is during warm-ups and cool-downs, so nothing too exciting there.
She started getting pissy with me on the rides home, or when she arrived home. It finally clicked that it was me (and husband) that were likely the biggest source of her irritation.
He and I had a conversation about it, and figured out that she needed the down time on the ride home to just chill out and get back to her regular self, leave gym at the gym.
There has been such a huge difference in her attitude in the evenings!
I have to bite my tongue at times, because I really do want to know what she is working on and what she is struggling with, but it has to be a conversation led by her or she will feel defensive, or just doesn't want to talk about it.
We always have snuggle time at bed time, and have always asked each other "What do you want to talk about", and if she want to talk about gym at that time she can, if not, I am learning to mind my bidness!
I have read on here over and over again how important it is for our children to have a separation between "gym time" and "home time". SO TRUE!!!
Thank you oh wise ones!:applause: