I am curious too 2gymmies and looking forward to someone chiming in on this.
I also can’t comment on this little girl and her choices. This agreement is between her and this school and I don’t think we can speculate on how or why this happened.
My dd is in 8th grade and I know that if her top choice school made her an offer she would want to take it for sure. This terrifies me as a parent, but I would trust her and her coaches and hopefully we would make the right choice. I know that if her top choice school wanted her it would be extremely difficult to pass it up as I can’t help but think that the offer would likely not come around again and she would be giving up a chance at her top school.
Does that mean that another school may end up being a better fit down the road? I don’t know. That is impossible to predict. Her top school choice is a great school with a large variety of majors and well within her academic reach and she is in love with the program and coaches. I feel she has thought about it pragmatically. I don’t know what more you can do. We aren’t close to that happening, just thinking hypothetically.
A little bit more input on the process. We watched and I conversed regularly and deeply with the mom of her teammate during her whole recruiting process. There were offers she declined and she quietly, not publicly, verballed to her school in 10th grade. From that point on and even before that (she started talking to them after eighth grade) there was consistent contact between them and her coach and the college coach. She also spoke regularly with academic counselors at the school to make sure she was taking the right classes and keeping up academically.
She also was injured for a good chunk a couple of times and that in no way affected the process. The school knew what she was capable of and monitored her recovery. This isn’t a process that happens in the dark. It’s not like you verbally commit and then nothing happens until junior year. There are ways to work the rules and keep lines of communication open.
Now, this all happened before the new rules about unofficial visits and communication. It will be interesting to see what happens now, but I think they will continue to find ways around the rules, for better or worse.